Baby Mama Drama

WhatToDo? · #1 10-09-2007, 11:12 AM

OOT I could use any advice you might be able to provide, cliff notes at the bottom.

I used to date this girl, and while often she made me as happy as I have ever been we would frequently argue and bicker. It was the type of relationship with the really high highs and really low lows. She had some problems relating to brain trauma at a very early age, and while this might have caused many of the problems, I honestly think I just wasn't ready for the relationship I found myself in. Eventually, we decided to break up and remain friends, occasionally with benefits (because the sex was phenomenal).

Anyway time passes and I start dating another girl. Things are going better this time around. No emotional rollercoaster rides. Well I'm in this relationship for about 7 months, when one night I hang out with my old gf. Things happen, and we end up sleeping together. We discuss this afterwards, agree that it is not that big of a deal, and go back to just being friends.

Well a couple of nights ago, my roommate who is friends with both of us, tells me that my ex-girlfriend is pregnant. At the time, I don't put two and two together, and we just discuss her ability to deal with a child (due to brain trauma mentioned above) and other things along that line.

Fast forward to last night when I'm laying on my couch, and realize "Holy [censored] that could be my baby". Well the ex and my roommate come over. We hang out for a while, and then the ex leaves to go tell her brother about the situation. (Keep in mind, that at this point, the ex doesn't know I know).

After she leaves, me and my roommate who knew about our previous hook-up discuss the possibility. She said she had talked about it with my ex, and that she at the time thought she was pregnant, but took a test and later had a period. I knew none of this. She also said that the ex is certain that her current bf is the father.

While this is very true, I'm a little worried because the more I think about it and the more checking I do, the timeline means it could have been me.

So at this point, do I just back the [censored] up and let the ex and her bf deal with this, and hope to God he doesn't take a paternity test? I just can not imagine calling my gf and having to say not only did I cheat on you but I'm having a baby with the other girl. Am I just freaking out unnecessarily? I mean if it all did come out in the wash that it was mine, I would do the right thing because I love the ex to death even with our somewhat rocky past, it's just not really part of the plan that I had formulated (probably marry current gf) since this happened months ago.

Cliff notes: Cheated on current gf with ex one night. Months pass, find out ex is pregnant. There is at least a remote possibility it is mine. What to do?

TomCollins · #2 10-09-2007, 11:14 AM

KKF?

tuq · #3 10-09-2007, 12:46 PM

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I'm inclined to agree but an IP check returned nothing. Never seen that before.

RedRover · #4 10-09-2007, 12:47 PM

whether or not it's yours she is going to say it's the current BFs, so take it and don't rock the boat

Selfish Gene · #5 10-09-2007, 12:49 PM

This is a huge, unexpected windfall for you.

XXXNoahXXX · #6 10-09-2007, 12:54 PM

What It Do?

howzit · #7 10-09-2007, 01:06 PM

No more Baby Mama Drama

WhatToDo? · #8 10-09-2007, 01:08 PM

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I'm inclined to agree but an IP check returned nothing. Never seen that before.

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It's because I'm cloaked in secrecy. Really I don't know why. If KKF is a person, I am not them, because I don't even know who they are.

XXXNoahXXX · #9 10-09-2007, 01:13 PM

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I'm inclined to agree but an IP check returned nothing. Never seen that before.

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It's because I'm cloaked in secrecy. Really I don't know why. If KKF is a person, I am not them, because I don't even know who they are.

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OMG there is more than one KKF?

NicksDad1970 · #10 10-09-2007, 01:14 PM

I havn't read all the responses yet but how about just getting a blood test and go from there.

Now that I read more than the cliff notes it is more complex. I guess i'd look deep in my heart and go with your instincts.

I couldn't think of anything else that I would do besides contact the ex and tell her you WANT to take the test. My reasoning is if I were you it would eat me up for the rest of my life. If you say if it's yours you'd want to do the right thing then go take the test.

BTW - Not to be a jerk but if this ruins your current relationship then look in the mirror buddy.