Friend that's a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ensues.

[otnemem]

OK, so as documented in a previous thread, I recently broke up with my fiance, and as such I'm stuck with an apartment that's far beyond my means. I'm paying ~53% of my take-home income on the apartment, and that's without utilities, cable, etc.

Anyway, bottom line is I'm pretty poor for the time being. A girl who was fired from my company about a month ago e-mailed me asking if I wanted to go to happy hour. I work in the financial district in NYC, which is a pretty expensive place to go out. And let me note - I'm not interested in this girl physically whatsoever.

So we meet up for happy hour, get about four rounds and some food. I ask her if we should get the check, she says yeah, but maybe we can stop somewhere on the way home, and she'll buy me a drink. This might not come across that well in type, but she was basically insinuating that she expects me to pick up this bill (which is about $80).

I sit there for about a minute, because I don't know how to react. Do I just eat it and pay the bill? Or do I say something?

Eventually I say, "Oh, are we not splitting this?"

She says, "Oh, yeah, we can..."

And then basically it's really awkward as I try to explain to her, 'if it were last week, I'd pay, but I'm sort of in a weird situation' etc. Isn't this weird that she'd just assume I'm paying for the drinks SHE INVITED ME TO?

If I had any interest in her, this situation would be much different I guess.

[Klompy]

If a girl I'm not interested in asks me out for drinks, at no point would I expect to be paying for her. It's pretty awkward for her to drop that bomb on you. Is she interested in you?

[otnemem]

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If a girl I'm not interested in asks me out for drinks, at no point would I expect to be paying for her. It's pretty awkward for her to drop that bomb on you. Is she interested in you?

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No [censored] idea. It's possible.

[bernie]

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If a girl I'm not interested in asks me out for drinks, at no point would I expect to be paying for her. It's pretty awkward for her to drop that bomb on you. Is she interested in you?

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No [censored] idea. It's possible.

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If you're interested in her, you buy her drinks. If not, you treat her just as you would any bud and don't expect a 2nd call to go out for drinks.

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[Hallett]

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If a girl I'm not interested in asks me out for drinks, at no point would I expect to be paying for her. It's pretty awkward for her to drop that bomb on you. Is she interested in you?

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Tell her you will buy the drinks tonight and weekly, if she gets on her knees and blows you 4 times per week, otherwise you have poker buddies you would rather buy drinks for.

[drexah]

Why go out with her in the first place if you are not physically attracted to her?

[cobrakai111]

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Why go out with her in the first place if you are not physically attracted to her?

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I'm amazed it took 20 posts for this question to come up.

[NT!]

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Why go out with her in the first place if you are not physically attracted to her?

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I'm amazed it took 20 posts for this question to come up.

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because sometimes men and women hang out just to have a good time? i mean i have several female friends that i drink with regularly. i wouldn't be that likely to go out for a drink with someone i don't know well or didn't just leave work with or something, but i also have to travel a lot farther than OP to get to any good bars.

[KidCornelia]

This situation is really quite simple. You should always keep an expired credit card handy just for these situations. Hand the waiter the card like you are big wheeling and tell her that you've got it. Then when he comes back with the bad news act like you had no idea and that this is an outrage. Explain to her that its all you have on you as you left your cash at home. She will pick up the check and all is well.

[Blarg]

Now this is genius!