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08-13-2007, 04:25 PM
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I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
Sorry for the emo post, but amongst other 2p2'ers I'm sure it's a fairly common problem. This is something I've dealt with for about 10 years since I was a freshman in college to now, when I'm applying to law school. Whenever I go out with people, I can never join in the conversation, and am usually just that wallflower who just sits on the sidelines while everyone else talks. It's gotten so bad, that I've even become uncomfortable with the only 2 people who are my friends.
I just hate being so awkward, and wanted to know how to fix this. I'm not overweight, or anything, on the contrary I'm in good shape 6'2 195, so that's not the problem. Anything that I can possible do to ameliorate this problem? Should I get a life coach, read the news more to become more interesting? Get more hobbies? Get a self help book? Sorry if this is long, I feel like I've just been in a rut for so long and there is just no way out of it [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] 
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#2
08-13-2007, 04:26 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
I'm interested to see replies; I'm not nearly as badly off as you but I see myself a little bit here
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08-13-2007, 04:28 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
Force yourself to talk to strangers several times a day. It is irrelivent if you come off sounding like a boring idiot to a person you'll never truely know. Like everything, social skills take practice.
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08-13-2007, 04:28 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
start random conversations with strangers. start with ugly/old people who will be glad to talk with you. about anything. you can even say, 'how about this weather?'. it doesn't matter, this is just practice. start going to cafes and stores with overly friendly staff, have conversations with them too. more practice.
eventually, you can move on to talking to people you actually want to talk to. it'll be easy after you've spent a month or two getting used to talking to strangers.
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#6
08-13-2007, 04:29 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
do you have a gf? longest relationship?
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#7
08-13-2007, 04:32 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
lol at the OP ruling out his weight as the problem, as if only fat people are shy.
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#8
08-13-2007, 04:38 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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lol at the OP ruling out his weight as the problem, as if only fat people are shy. [/ QUOTE ] Well it seems that most people who ask the questions that I have, are boring/ shy because of their perception of their physical appearance. Just wanted to throw that out, in case the first 3 pages were, "you must be ugly/ lose weight"
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08-13-2007, 04:41 PM
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Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
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read the news more to become more interesting? Get more hobbies [/ QUOTE ] yes also, if you don't ever do anything because you don't want to talk to people then you'll never have anything to talk about! self weighting strategy. ie you never leave the house so nothing ever happens to you so you never have any stories to tell so you feel awkward so you never leave the house! also, you might be depressed, but the fact that you see this as a bad thing and not a good thing means its less likely. most depressed people are happy to sit at home and never see anyone or do anything.
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