Anyone here an older brother to a sister? (long, serious)

P.Dirty · #1 02-11-2006, 11:34 PM

Background: I'm 21, in my final semester at NYU, and i've probably spoken to my sister a handful of times over the past 4 years. My sister is an 8th grader (13 yrs old) in Columbus, Ohio, a "star" on the basketball team, and an honor roll student. When ever I am home for Thanksgiving, Christmas, or a weekend over the summer, she always tries to give me a big hug, mostly to annoy me though I think, because she knows that I hate it when she does this. After I came back to NYC after Christmas, my sister IMed me for the first time ever and we've had a few conversations since.

Story: My sister IMs me today saying hi, and I start a small conversation with her. While doing so I look at her AIM profile. There is this very long quote that i'm assuming she got from some lyric or movie that I have not heard of about how she wants to be in love with some guy. And on top of that, there is this boy's name, yesterday's date, and the words "i love you". Now, I'm assuming that the boy passed her a note yesterday that said "check yes or no", and this is the day they have started to 'date'. When I saw this, I asked her to take out the words "i love you" out of her profile, because she obviously doesn't know what the words mean, and she repeatedly told me that she "wasn't going to do anything stupid". Now I was a kid a few years ago, and I remember saying "I'm not going to do anything stupid" to my parents, and then usually ended up doing something stupid. I told her that if she didn't take it out, that I was going to tell mom and dad (who would throw a [censored] fit).

I trust my sister to a certain degree, but at the same time, I feel like it's a little early for her to be saying i love you to a boy, and DEFINATELY too young to be doing anything that some of you pedophiles are thinking about right now.

What would you do if you were in my situation? Or what have you done being in this situation? Should I involve my parents in this (I'm assuming they haven't given her any birds and the bees speech since I never got that speech), or should I let my sister make her own decisions/mistakes in the matter?

And no I won't give you my sister's phone number or post pics.

Alobar · #2 02-11-2006, 11:37 PM

weak dude. You want to get involved with your sisters life and tell her whats what, yet you only talk to her a handful of times over 4 years and dont even want a hug from her the rare times you see her? get a clue

highlife · #3 02-11-2006, 11:41 PM

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weak dude. You want to get involved with your sisters life and tell her whats what, yet you only talk to her a handful of times over 4 years and dont even want a hug from her the rare times you see her? get a clue

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exactly. you have been a crappy brother and now you wanna get involved in something petty like this? its not like she is on drugs, doing something illegal, severely depressed or thinking about hurting herself. she has a boyfriend, big f-ing deal.

kyro · #4 02-11-2006, 11:51 PM

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weak dude. You want to get involved with your sisters life and tell her whats what, yet you only talk to her a handful of times over 4 years and dont even want a hug from her the rare times you see her? get a clue

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*nods*

PD, you're being incredibly dumb. Don't make me change my vote.

chesspain · #5 02-11-2006, 11:54 PM

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weak dude. You want to get involved with your sisters life and tell her whats what, yet you only talk to her a handful of times over 4 years and dont even want a hug from her the rare times you see her? get a clue

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Holy crap! When Alobar goes toe-to-toe with you and comes off as the more sensitive and enlightened individual, you know it's time to set your TiVo to the Dr. Phil hour.

P.Dirty · #6 02-12-2006, 12:03 AM

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weak dude. You want to get involved with your sisters life and tell her whats what, yet you only talk to her a handful of times over 4 years and dont even want a hug from her the rare times you see her? get a clue

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I know that I have been a "bad brother" over the past couple of years. I don't need to you to tell me this. I have started to speak to her a lot more over the past 7 weeks, and while this might not be enough for you to justify my OP, I had to start somewhere. I obviously care about her or I wouldn't be doing any of this in the first place.

P.

Alobar · #7 02-12-2006, 12:09 AM

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weak dude. You want to get involved with your sisters life and tell her whats what, yet you only talk to her a handful of times over 4 years and dont even want a hug from her the rare times you see her? get a clue

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I know that I have been a "bad brother" over the past couple of years. I don't need to you to tell me this. I have started to speak to her a lot more over the past 7 weeks, and while this might not be enough for you to justify my OP, I had to start somewhere. I obviously care about her or I wouldn't be doing any of this in the first place.

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well you are on the right path then. The thing to do is establish a relationship with her before you start telling her how to live her life (which you shouldnt be doing anyway, but I think you know what I mean). Be interested in what interests her, show her you care, give her advice if she asks for it, but dont tell her what to do, or lay out ultimatims, you should realize it wont work anyway.

beyeond · #8 02-12-2006, 12:52 AM

If there were more time to vote in the Survivor, Dirty would've had a great shot of blowing his victory much like the 2004 Yankees by making this post.

mj12 · #9 02-12-2006, 12:58 AM

Is taking "I love you" off gonna change how she feels on anything about the relationship? This will only further the gap between you and ur sister and probably has 0% chance in achieving any desired effect. So why not try to discuss this with her instead of acting like a dick. ANd yes when everyone here says u were a douche u probably were

surfinillini · #10 02-12-2006, 12:30 PM

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weak dude. You want to get involved with your sisters life and tell her whats what, yet you only talk to her a handful of times over 4 years and dont even want a hug from her the rare times you see her? get a clue

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yea just stay out of her life

I have a younger brother who I really don't talk to much, he's quite the introvert and has sufferred from depression before.

We are two totally different people and I only give him advice or step in when he asks me.

BTW - I'm 23 and he;s 19