Guys, never let your girl win at cards

DayTripping · #1 02-19-2007, 05:13 PM

So one night last week while my GF was out here visiting, we were playing cards and drinking a little wine. We we're both pretty buzzed, but I don't think that has any bearing on the story. Anyway, we were playing NL hold em, and since my GF has never played before and I've been playing for about 5 years, I was totally kicking her ass. At one point she got up to go to the bathroom, and while she was gone I decided to stack the deck so that she would get dealt AA and I would get dealt KK. I felt kinda bad that she was losing so much and I thought she wasn't having fun, so I thought this would be a good idea. She comes back, the hand plays out and she ends up taking a huge chunk of my chips. She seemed happy. The game ends shortly after that.

Fast forward to a few nights.

She's back home in Vegas we're talking on the phone. For some reason I decide that I should tell her that I stacked the deck on that hand so that she would win. I don't know why, I thought she would think it was funny and maybe I just needed to confess. HUGE MISTAKE. She gets big time pissed and is like "Why would you do that!!" The next day I call her and ask her why she's so pissed about it. She tells me she was just having fun playing the game and that she didn't need me to do that in order for her to enjoy it. I ask her why she's making such a big deal out of this and she gets even more pissed. She's like "Why are you telling me this is not a big deal!? Why are you saying my feelings don't matter!?" I'm genuinely confused as hell. I guess I can see her being a little irked, but it just seems like she is making a mountain out of a molehill. She said it would be a while before she could trust me again. Trust me??? It was a f'ing card game, it's not like I slept w/ her best friend.

Anyway, she hasn't called me in 2 days. We usually talk every night before going to bed.

What should I do here? Wait for her to call me, or do I call her and apologize for the 10th time for this grave sin I've committed? Is she making too big a deal out of this or does she have the right to be so pissed?

grinin · #2 02-19-2007, 05:15 PM

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What should I do here?

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Jiggymike · #3 02-19-2007, 05:22 PM

First off your title is misleading. Second, this incident may have revealed what a bitch this girl really is. You probably shouldn't have said anything becauase people don't like being known that you let them win. However, it really isn't a big deal and you should tell her straight up that it's not a challenge for you to beat her so you were trying to make her feel better (ummm, word it better than that if you don't want to get dumped fo sho). all in all, this is pretty retarded of her.

Blarg · #4 02-23-2007, 07:44 PM

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First off your title is misleading. Second, this incident may have revealed what a bitch this girl really is. You probably shouldn't have said anything becauase people don't like being known that you let them win. However, it really isn't a big deal and you should tell her straight up that it's not a challenge for you to beat her so you were trying to make her feel better (ummm, word it better than that if you don't want to get dumped fo sho). all in all, this is pretty retarded of her.

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I like it MUCH better without serious reasons. Telling her it was a simple goof, joke, prank would be better. Also, should have told her right away. I wonder if there's more to the story, because the guy was holding out so long. Did he tell the story at a key moment to cut her confidence or show her how in control he was, or something? Maybe subconsiously? I doubt we'll find out either way. It doesn't sound like she's mad about him being a goof; it sounds like she's mad that it wasn't just about him being a goof, but that he used that in a certain way.

On the other hand, maybe she's just nuts. But he still didn't handle this well.

If you're gonna do a goof, then just make it a goof and be done with it before it gets weird. Otherwise, you deserve at least a good part of the blame yourself.

dknightx · #5 02-19-2007, 05:16 PM

cue forest gump picture

Hold'em 07 · #6 02-19-2007, 05:17 PM

Your g/f is visiting and you play cards????

DayTripping · #7 02-19-2007, 05:19 PM

What's wrong w/ playing cards?

Bodhisattva, we've been together since September.

Bodhisattva · #8 02-19-2007, 05:23 PM

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What's wrong w/ playing cards?

Bodhisattva, we've been together since September.

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If this is how she reacts to this nonsense think of whats to come when a real issue pops up.

slickpoppa · #9 02-19-2007, 05:20 PM

Stacking the deck in her favor and then telling her that you let her win is really condescending.

That being said, she is overreacting.

MikeyPatriot · #10 02-19-2007, 05:23 PM

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Stacking the deck in her favor and then telling her that you let her win is really condescending.

That being said, she is overreacting.

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Even if you don't agree with how she is (over)reacting to this, you should at least understand WHY she is upset.