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11-09-2006, 06:21 PM
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How Long before you Forgive?
Three years ago, my friend Sam slept with Betsy, who was dating Joe, at the time. Sam, myself, and Joe were all friends, and Betsy and Joe had been dating for over a year without any apparent trouble. Apparently Sam first slept with Betsy when they were drunk, but they slept together about five or six times before Betsy confessed to Joe. Joe got really upset and started screaming at Betsy and punched Sam in the face. Joe and Betsy tried to go out again a month or so after the fight, but it didn't work out. Betsy and Sam never dated afterwards. While I was pretty good friends with Sam, I couldn't believe that he would do something like that and basically stopped talking to him. He moved away about six months later, so it wasn't a big deal and I didn't think about him.
About eight months ago, Joe moves down to NYC and we hang out frequently, along with one or two other people from our circle of friends that migrated down here from Boston. I just found out that Sam moved down here and wants to hang out. I'm torn as to what to do...Joe doesn't want anything to do with him, obviously, so I could try to just hang out with Sam when Joe's not around, but that's kind of pissing of Joe. Before everything happened, I was equally close with both Joe and Sam. Sam just moved here and doesn't know many people, so normally I'd invite him out to help him meet people and enjoy things, especially since he's working at a three person software company where he won't make that many friends, but something just doesn't seem right. Thoughts? Cliff Notes for the TL/DR: One of my friends screwed another friend's serious girlfriend a few times. Three years later I hang out with the guy who's girlfriend got screwed and the cheater wants to hang out. Forgive by now? 
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11-10-2006, 10:00 AM
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Re: How Long before you Forgive?
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I couldn't possibly follow all this drama w/o a MSPaint diagram. [/ QUOTE ]
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#7
11-10-2006, 01:33 AM
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Re: How Long before you Forgive?
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bros before hoes- adios douchebag. [/ QUOTE ] Agreed. You were equally close to both, but were the two of them just as close as well? Either way, said guy is douchebag. Not right. Be civil when out in public, but I couldn't hang out with him IMO.
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#8
11-10-2006, 04:10 AM
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Re: How Long before you Forgive?
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bros before hoes- adios douchebag. [/ QUOTE ] I think if this happened while young, people can change later on. It's not like it happened 6 months ago. Though 3 years, depending on their age still may not be enough time for it to really sink in. If Sam still doesn't see anything wrong with what he did, or downplays it, I'd be hardpressed to hang out with him. How can you? He'd be saying, 'I screwed over your friend, and I don't care.' b
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#9
11-10-2006, 04:18 AM
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Re: How Long before you Forgive?
if he dicks over a good friend 3 years ago, he will dick you over, too. tell that guy to go [censored] himself.
seriously, who [censored] a friend's gf anyway?
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