keeping the sex up in a LTR

[kleinstadt1]

I heard an interesting theory the other day. Supposedly, one way of keeping sex interesting in a LTR is to not do mundane stuff together, like being in the bathroom while brushing teeth, peeing, etc. The idea behind it is that brushing teeth=not sexy, just boring. So if you don't watch the other person do this stuff, they will seem less mundane, but more mysterious and ergo sexier.

For the record, I don't necessarily agree with the idea.

I was curious to see what OOT thought on the topic. Although I know the consensus previously has been: girls you can fart in front of=good.

[SmackinYaUp]

I bet most will disagree, but I buy it. The chase, the mystery, the hoping she calls keeps it exciting. Not farting in her face first thing in the morning while she is trying to brush her teeth, cut her toenails, and take a [censored] all at the same time.

[octopi]

When I do those things around a boyfriend, it shows that I'm more comfortable. And when I'm more comfortable, the sex gets better.

However, in the long term, I don't think it's things like flossing and doing dishes together that will make a relationship mundane and ultimately kill it. That being said, there is no reason for him to be around when I'm shaving my cooch. That just isn't right.

[CallMeIshmael]

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When I do those things around a boyfriend, it shows that I'm more comfortable. And when I'm more comfortable, the sex gets better.

However, in the long term, I don't think it's things like flossing and doing dishes together that will make a relationship mundane and ultimately kill it. That being said, there is no reason for him to be around when I'm shaving my cooch. That just isn't right.

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FWIW, of all the things you listed, watching you shave the cooch seems like it would be the MOST fun

[FortunaMaximus]

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When I do those things around a boyfriend, it shows that I'm more comfortable. And when I'm more comfortable, the sex gets better.

However, in the long term, I don't think it's things like flossing and doing dishes together that will make a relationship mundane and ultimately kill it. That being said, there is no reason for him to be around when I'm shaving my cooch. That just isn't right.

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Let him shave the thing. It'll make for an interesting difference. Just a wild guess.

[drexah]

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When I do those things around a boyfriend, it shows that I'm more comfortable. And when I'm more comfortable, the sex gets better.

However, in the long term, I don't think it's things like flossing and doing dishes together that will make a relationship mundane and ultimately kill it. That being said, there is no reason for him to be around when I'm shaving my cooch. That just isn't right.

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I agree with the first part of this, my last serious relationship the sex just got better and better the more comfortable we got together (telling eachother what we wanted/fantasized about etc...) but where the hell did the shaving cooch thing come from? i dont see any relevance whatsoever. that actually almost negates your comment about being comfortable w/ someone. putting in a tampon > shaving cooch by a long shot IMO

[DirtyDiggs]

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I bet most will disagree, but I buy it. The chase, the mystery, the hoping she calls keeps it exciting. Not farting in her face first thing in the morning while she is trying to brush her teeth, cut her toenails, and take a [censored] all at the same time.

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I completely buy it. After a four year relationship, I still had great (more importantly, got better with time) sexual relationship with my girlfriend. I had sort of "seinfeld rule" that I would try to avoid "casual naked". The point of the rule was that we would avoid times wher we were naked/peeing/getting changed. Did it happen? Of course. But the point was that seeing each other naked remaind something that was dirty/illict/crazy/sexy and and had the connotation of sort of a bid deal. While I had been on space mountain a bunch of times, the lights were still out and I loved it.

[TheAntiPuritan]

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I bet most will disagree, but I buy it. The chase, the mystery, the hoping she calls keeps it exciting. Not farting in her face first thing in the morning while she is trying to brush her teeth, cut her toenails, and take a [censored] all at the same time.

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I completely buy it. After a four year relationship, I still had great (more importantly, got better with time) sexual relationship with my girlfriend. I had sort of "seinfeld rule" that I would try to avoid "casual naked". The point of the rule was that we would avoid times wher we were naked/peeing/getting changed. Did it happen? Of course. But the point was that seeing each other naked remaind something that was dirty/illict/crazy/sexy and and had the connotation of sort of a bid deal. While I had been on space mountain a bunch of times, the lights were still out and I loved it.

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i like this idea/reasoning. ty

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I find making a few home videos keeps things hot.

[GrandmaStabone]

I am 24, and I have had the same girlfriend since I was 18. I think you would lose a lot more in a long term relationship by actively trying to avoid doing everyday tasks together (like dishes, brushing your teeth, etc.) than you would gain sexually.