Is this behavior acceptable in a relationship?

[AsH_KeTcHuM]

I'm in a LTR with my girlfriend going on 3 years. I have only a couple of very close friends that I breakdance with, and workout with. But I recently joined a hip-hop dance team called Culture Shock and have a lot of new acquaintances. Its a co-ed team, all around my age, and of course we are all dance enthusiasts, so I seem to get along with them pretty well so far despite my introvertedness.

Anyways, the first team party was a couple of months ago, and I wanted to go on my own without my GF. She was offended by me wanting to go on my own and we had a big fight about it. I then said I'd take her, but Another fight we got into led to me saying "f-it Im going on my own now." Which I did.

I didn't hook up with any chicks there, and to be honest there's only one really hot chick out of the bunch, so it was a pretty harmless night.

Another one is coming up, and again I just want to go on my own. My G/f is upset again, and thinks I want to be all touchy feely flirty with the girls and thats why I don't want her going. She says she cant trust me, or them, when were all drunk and stuff.

To be honest I don't know exactly why I don't want her going. I guess because I like to act differently around my boys. Also I tend to act like a jackass when Im drunk, my girlfriend gets pissy and kills my buzz also. Theres noone there I'm trying to hook up with, and although I would act differently when my girl isn't there, I'm not planning on doing anything definitively bad.

I understand why she would be upset that I'm not inviting her to come, but I don't know whether its reasonable of me to expect her to accept my wishes or not. Do you guys think its ok to separate your s/o and social life like this? Also I don't party or club a lot if that makes any difference.

[WhiteMike13]

If you have nothing to hide then you should take her.

[blinden84]

invite her, if she doesn't get along with you there, maybe you are heading in different directions. Tell her "blinden don't dance." and move on.

[onthebutton]

It's obvious she doesn't trust you. Is there a reason for this? If not, to the curb with her.

[deadbody]

In an LTR you should have things you do seperately. If your girl doesn't get that then she is probably too clingy.

Dump her

[wdead]

WTF why dont you want to go to party with her? If you have a reason you should explain it to her. If not she is right you are wrong.

[Shenlong]

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If you have nothing to hide then you should take her.

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F that. If you have a simple request/expectation, like being able to go to a party with a bunch of friends that she doesn't even know, and she's not willing to let you go by yourself because, "she can't trust you/them," then there's something wrong. Does she ever go anywhere without you? If so, next time raise a big fuss about it and see how she likes it.

I can't say anymore without knowing if you have ever given her a reason not to trust you, or to think this way, but if you haven't, then she's just being way too controlling.

If you have, then it's par for the course.

[Etric]

Dear Ash,

You are dating out of your league and have absolutely no game at all

Please ride your luck (and your girl) for as long as you can until she drop kicks you to the curb.

As payment for my advice, you may post/PM me more pics of your gf. Thank you.

Pwnt.

[onthebutton]

Etric,

I loved how after he'd been obviously caught (score one for me) he reverted back to the gimmick.

[Sponger.]

You sound like a dick who can't be trusted. Also you either practically never smoked or your girlfriend is an idiot for not noticing, and you're a dick for not telling her.