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Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
So I'm hanging out with my best friend from childhood and his friend and we're all adults and this guy just non-stops spews racial slurs and vitriol and talks about killing ____ and ____. I'm not a racist so I felt I only had 2 options: stay quiet and stay away from this unsavory character as much as I can or make it known that I can't stand him. I've only been around this racist several times, I think he's going to college with my friend. What's my line here? I don't wanna have to force my friend to associate with either him or me and my friend usually doesn't behave this way and he just kinda lets the racist's stuff go without saying anything but on the other hand I can't stand for their association to continue.
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
Am I the only one who thought this was going to be about someone who would only listen to white lead singers?
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
You will find no support here.
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
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I'm not a racist so I felt I only had 2 options: stay quiet and stay away from this unsavory character as much as I can or make it known that I can't stand him. [/ QUOTE ] can't you do both? |
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
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[ QUOTE ] I'm not a racist so I felt I only had 2 options: stay quiet and stay away from this unsavory character as much as I can or make it known that I can't stand him. [/ QUOTE ] can't you do both? [/ QUOTE ] "stay quiet" vs. "make it known" |
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
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[ QUOTE ] [ QUOTE ] I'm not a racist so I felt I only had 2 options: stay quiet and stay away from this unsavory character as much as I can or make it known that I can't stand him. [/ QUOTE ] can't you do both? [/ QUOTE ] "stay quiet" vs. "make it known" [/ QUOTE ] don't verbally challenge him, antagonize him, call him out, etc. but also don't be dishonest about the fact that you think he's a POS. if he calls you out first, then it's a different story. works for me. |
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
one time i was in a similar situation. i liked the soon-to-be revealed racist beforehand but when he told me:
"YA KNOW WHAT I HATE? HOW DEM N*GGAS IS ALWAYS WEARING WORK BOOTS. BUT DEY NEVAR WORK" that kinda ruined it. it's a world full of dum dums. |
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
ALL my friends are pretty racist, except for 1 or 2 of my real close ones, Ive made it known not to say any of that [censored] around me. Its pretty simple, they say something racist, you say, hey, listen, Im not going to stop you from saying [censored] like that, but out of respect dont say that stuff around me, I dont like it. It works.
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
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ALL my friends are pretty racist, except for 1 or 2 of my real close ones, Ive made it known not to say any of that [censored] around me. Its pretty simple, they say something racist, you say, hey, listen, Im not going to stop you from saying [censored] like that, but out of respect dont say that stuff around me, I dont like it. It works. [/ QUOTE ] Hey guids, I am just wondering how you got to a place where the majority of your friends are racist. For me, that would be pretty much a dealbreaker for any friendship. |
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Re: Best friend\'s friend is a vocal racist
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[ QUOTE ] ALL my friends are pretty racist, except for 1 or 2 of my real close ones, Ive made it known not to say any of that [censored] around me. Its pretty simple, they say something racist, you say, hey, listen, Im not going to stop you from saying [censored] like that, but out of respect dont say that stuff around me, I dont like it. It works. [/ QUOTE ] Hey guids, I am just wondering how you got to a place where the majority of your friends are racist. For me, that would be pretty much a dealbreaker for any friendship. [/ QUOTE ] If you live in the midwest, specifically St. Louis because it is so racially divided, you tend to notice that EVERYONE is racist. Not Hitler racist, but not exactly accepting. Most of the kids that I found out were racist, Ive distanced myself from, thats why I only really have 2 or 3 really really good friendships. And its not just the white people either, blacks are too, or at least they automatically assume that whites are racist, I think its the city more than anything. |
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