The Cheating Scale

Hopey · #1 05-15-2006, 02:54 PM

In response to the "Is paying for a 'happy ending' cheating" thread, I thought it would be interesting to come up with a cheating scale. Some of you seem to have really puritanical views of any and all sexual acts that do not involve your s.o., while others seem to think that banging a hooker isn't cheating because you're paying for it.

Anyway, here's what my "Cheating scale" looks like:

0.5 Going to a strip bar, or simply oggling other women.
1.0 Flirting with a girl that you don't know, with no intention of it going any farther.
1.5 Repeatedly flirting with a girl that you *do* know, to the point where there is sexual tension after awhile, even if you have no intention of it going any farther.
2.0 Getting a lap-dance at a nudie bar.
3.0 Paying for a "happy ending" massage.
4.0 Making out with someone you don't know.
4.5 Developing an emotional attachment with another girl, without sex being involved (though sex could eventually be involved if things progressed).
5.0 Making out with someone you have an emotional attachment to.
6.0 Getting a BJ from a hooker.
7.0 Having sex with a hooker.
8.0 Geting a BJ from someone you have an emotional attachment to.
9.0 Having sex with someone you have an emotional attachment to.
10.0 Starting up a full sexual relationship (as opposed to a "one night stand") with someone you have an emotional attachment to.

Agree? Disagree?

blinden84 · #2 05-15-2006, 02:55 PM

where is having sex with someone with no emotional attachment but who is also not a hooker?

Hopey · #3 05-15-2006, 03:04 PM

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where is having sex with someone with no emotional attachment but who is also not a hooker?

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I thought about that after I typed out #10. I'd say that it's an 9.0 if the sex is a regular thing, and a 7.5 if it's a one-time thing. The 7.5 is greatly reduced if you're too drunk to remember it happening.

If it's a regular thing, there's always the chance that it will develop into emotional attachment -- not just necessarily on your part.

Gunny Highway · #4 05-15-2006, 03:06 PM

Don't you think a scale should be unnecessary?

Hopey · #5 05-15-2006, 03:12 PM

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Don't you think a scale should be unnecessary?

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I'm just curious as to what some people consider to be cheating -- and what transgressions people consider to be worse than others.

For instance, when I stated in the other thread that I didn't consider getting a handjob at a masseuse to be cheating (and I do, I just don't consider it to be all that serious a form of cheating), I was jumped all over by a few other posters. Some people consider the act itself to be cheating, whereas I tend to believe that the emotional attachment is more of a determining factor.

runner4life7 · #6 05-15-2006, 03:06 PM

im just not a believer in a scale on cheating. Cheating is cheating. If someone feels like they have been cheated on its that same terrible feeling either way.

Hopey · #7 05-15-2006, 03:23 PM

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im just not a believer in a scale on cheating. Cheating is cheating. If someone feels like they have been cheated on its that same terrible feeling either way.

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Yeah, but do you feel worse after finding out that your girlfriend drunkenly kissed some guy at a bar, or do you feel worse when you find out your girlfriend organized a threesome with two guys from work?

d-baggery · #8 05-15-2006, 02:57 PM

Here's mine:

0 - you don't get caught.
10 - you get caught.

Iplayragstoo · #9 05-15-2006, 10:46 PM

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Here's mine:

0 - you don't get caught.
10 - you get caught.

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This doesnt surprise me...you seem to be an attention whore...as evidence I present

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JOMO Grinder · #10 05-15-2006, 02:57 PM

Scale looks pretty solid. However, I do feel that there should be a spot at the top of the list reserved for banging one of her best friends or relatives.