Kinda cheated on gf...bit of a moral dilemma.

[GimmickAccount#7]

So I'll try to make this short...

Been with the gf > 5yrs, love her to death, plan getting engaged soon. I've never cheated on her before.

Last week a friend of a friend was visiting the area and I was asked to show her around. I never met this girl before. We had a good time all week and on the last night she was here I ended up hooking up with her (didn't bang her though).

Here is my dilemma...

I liked it. I like it ALOT. I probably would have [censored] her if I had the chance but the circumstances precluded me. I don't really feel guilty about it either.

So, advice from those who have been there/done that...should I be worried?

Like I said I love my gf to death and want to marry her, but now that I've fooled around a bit I feel like I want to do it agian.

Like I said I've never cheated at all before so this is all kinda new to me. Should I just write it off as a one time thing and go back to being faithful, or should I maybe get some fooling around out of my system before I actually get married? If so do I tell my gf or just see if I can get away with it?

[IcarusJam]

Threesome.

[holyfield5]

fool around all you want, just two main things that you MUST do if you love your gf if you do this:

1. Do Not Get Caught
2. Do Not Start Treating GF Differently

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fool around all you want, just two main things that you MUST do if you love your gf if you do this:

1. Do Not Get Caught
2. Do Not Start Treating GF Differently

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If you're going to marry this girl, it's going to be very very very hard not to get caught, so have backup plans, etc.

I've only been faithful in about 20% of my relationships, and among all those times I've cheated, I've gotten caught a lot. It's surprisingly hard not to get caught because women are paranoid. So be prepared for that. The hardest is when you're lying to both girls because they're both actively trying to find each other.

[holyfield5]

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fool around all you want, just two main things that you MUST do if you love your gf if you do this:

1. Do Not Get Caught
2. Do Not Start Treating GF Differently

[/ QUOTE ]qft

If you're going to marry this girl, it's going to be very very very hard not to get caught, so have backup plans, etc.

I've only been faithful in about 20% of my relationships, and among all those times I've cheated, I've gotten caught a lot. It's surprisingly hard not to get caught because women are paranoid. So be prepared for that.

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it gets hard to do it when you live together, but if you think ahead its not all that hard. If you arent living together its cake. Assuming marriage would be pretty tough unless it was just an incidental hook up though.

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hah. beat me to it. QFT anyway.

[Monster207]

Same situation happened with me 6 months ago, been with girl 4.5 years and i cheated on her once. keep your mouth shut about it and if you actually do love her stay faithful.. the other path blows... not in a good way.

[lostsoul]

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fool around all you want, just two main things that you MUST do if you love your gf if you do this:

1. Do Not Get Caught
2. Do Not Start Treating GF Differently

[/ QUOTE ]qft

If you're going to marry this girl, it's going to be very very very hard not to get caught, so have backup plans, etc.

I've only been faithful in about 20% of my relationships, and among all those times I've cheated, I've gotten caught a lot. It's surprisingly hard not to get caught because women are paranoid. So be prepared for that. The hardest is when you're lying to both girls because they're both actively trying to find each other.

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U aren't doing something right then. It is easy not to get caught. Plan ahead. Always plan ahead. But here is the golden rule. NEVER NEVR NEVER TELL HER. NO MATTER WHAT. U have done the deed now live with it. Teling her will only ruin the relationship. Why do that? u will carry the guilt, u did it, no reason to hurt her by telling her. U have done enough damage so keep it inside. As for still cheating, why not? Plan ahead, take them to completely different places never go to the same area with each girl. Never make plans on the same day. Always leave a out. If u live with one of them, get a 2nd job, so u have a excuse to be out alot.

I didn't get back on here until this morning or I would of got this sooner, but I hope this advice helps.

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U aren't doing something right then. It is easy not to get caught.

[/ QUOTE ]Maybe if you're a travelling salesman and you only screw girls from adult chat lines or whatever it is you do. But when you go after the girls you really want (or I really want) it's very hard not to get caught. Maybe it's because I like nice girls who want to be my girlfriend. [censored] just don't do it for me.