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Asking out a girl
Ok, well I've been annoying SSNL with this and Goofyballer told me to create a thread. So here it is.
Well I moved to Japan alone on December 22nd. I started taking language classes with a german girl around January 10th. We got along pretty well, we ate lunch together after school like 7-11 times as friends. I pay for her lunch, she talks about what's happening in her life, etcetera. She graduated from the class on the 5th so we don't see eachother on a regular basis anymore, but I started teaching her poker. So I've seen her a couple times since then. Last time I saw her I said "I really like you, are you dating anyone?" Then she said something like "Well, I was dating this French guy, but we kinda broke up 2 weeks ago. I'm not sure if we're still dating, he's really annoying. I'll decide soon." I wasn't really sure how to take that, I just asked why he was annoying then talked about poker, etcetera. Today I texted her with And it's been 6 hours since I sent it, she still hasn't responded. In Japan texts are usually answered pretty quickly since the cell phones ring when they get a new text, also there's a big message on the main screen. So, when should I send a follow up text asking whether or not she got the first one? And is there a good way to ask if she has a boyfriend? And any other suggestions? She just turned 28, I'm 19, if that matters at all |
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Re: Asking out a girl
Muahaha, all of the girl threads I've inspired are leading a takeover of The Dorm!
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Ok, well I've been annoying SSNL with this and Goofyballer told me to create a thread. So here it is. Well I moved to Japan alone on December 22nd. I started taking language classes with a german girl around January 10th. We got along pretty well, we ate lunch together after school like 7-11 times as friends. I pay for her lunch, she talks about what's happening in her life, etcetera. She graduated from the class on the 5th so we don't see eachother on a regular basis anymore, but I started teaching her poker. So I've seen her a couple times since then. Last time I saw her I said "I really like you, are you dating anyone?" Then she said something like "Well, I was dating this French guy, but we kinda broke up 2 weeks ago. I'm not sure if we're still dating, he's really annoying. I'll decide soon." I wasn't really sure how to take that, I just asked why he was annoying then talked about poker, etcetera. Today I texted her with And it's been 6 hours since I sent it, she still hasn't responded. In Japan texts are usually answered pretty quickly since the cell phones ring when they get a new text, also there's a big message on the main screen. So, when should I send a follow up text asking whether or not she got the first one? And is there a good way to ask if she has a boyfriend? And any other suggestions? She just turned 28, I'm 19, if that matters at all [/ QUOTE ] Don't ask her if she got the first one. She obviously did and you'll end up looking desperate. |
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btw, why are you paying for her lunch? [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img]
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btw, why are you paying for her lunch? [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [/ QUOTE ] Baller? Pretty standard no? ???? And why are my prospects aren't good? Am I missing something here? |
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[ QUOTE ] btw, why are you paying for her lunch? [img]/images/graemlins/confused.gif[/img] [/ QUOTE ] Baller? Pretty standard no? ???? And why are my prospects aren't good? Am I missing something here? [/ QUOTE ] man, I suck with girls but I know the big "what not to dos" and paying for a girl especially in your situation is a huge no-no. She'll just see you as a chump who's paying for her free meal while that french [censored] is playing hard to get while nailing her. |
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it wasn't really because she was a girl, I offer to pay for drinks or lunch when I eat out with my other friends too.
I made like 20k last month and 10$ is a lot to some people, so I don't mind it at all. un-baller? |
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At this point I think it is not looking good for your prospects of being more than a friend.
Advice for future: Why are you paying for her lunch? Don't ask out by text message.. Don't ask if she is busy on X.. Just say I am doing Y, you can come along. Gauge reaction and go from there. |
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Why you so fixated on some German 'girl' who's almost 10 years older than you? Go for the Japanese girls who are your age.
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Why you so fixated on some German 'girl' who's almost 10 years older than you? Go for the Japanese girls who are your age. [/ QUOTE ] Japanese girls are [censored] lame. And I like her, wtf kind of question is that? And yeah I got similar responses about the whole asking vs telling thing I guess it makes sense, as in it makes me more manly. I think our pretext equity is pretty similar either way since her english isn't perfect. But yeah in the future I'll definitely be more assertive and less pussy |
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