ex-gf comes out of nowhere. wats my play?

[BossMJW]

so basically, i was with this girl for 2 years before coming to OSU. we loved each other and w/e, but we ended on a weird note. to make a long story short, i got my cell stolen while out of town, didnt talk to her for like 8 days, and when i got back we had problems. ended up breaking up, and i didnt hear from her for 6 months.(weird?) then two days ago, she starts aim/callin me, saying she misses me and made a big mistake, etc.

relevant factors:
I am at the biggest school in the country, and there are soo many hot chicks.
She had a b/f while we were apart for 2 months.
Said as it is to say, i still have feelings for her.

[Daddy Hoya]

I was in the same situation. Girlfriend since freshman year in high school broke up right when we first got to college. Come January, she comes calling again, and now we've been back together for over a year now. I had a few girlfriends during our split, and I'm sure she had a boyfriend or whatever, but it just made us realized how much we liked each other.
Kinda disgusting, I'm sorry.
But if you guys still have feelings for each other, why not give it another shot?

[DrGutshot]

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But if you guys still have feelings for each other, why not give it another shot?

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prolly a bad idea - from the way OP states it, it is clear that the idea of dating around/meeting new people is a good thing, which it is. Be firm and clear with her that you're not gonna get back together. Sounds pretty clear that her recent relationship didn't go as well as she had hoped and misses what you had before.

You guys can stay friends, and maybe far down the line you can give it another shot. Doesn't sound like now is a good time to do that, though.

-DrG

[eviljeff]

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But if you guys still have feelings for each other, why not give it another shot?

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um, this would mean that breakups would mostly never last

[Lord_Strife]

The important question is, she doesn't go to OSU right?

[Big Poppa Smurf]

Dude I hate to break it to you, but here is probably what happened. She just got dumped by her new boyfriend and is feeling nostalgic and just misses you. However if you still like her you can definitely swing this into going out with her again

[BossMJW]

no she doesnt go to OSU, and after the party i went to tonight, im almost sure that gettin back with her is not even worth it. theres too many hotter chicks around here

[Mr November]

take it slooooooooooooooow.... if you have feelings talk it out and see where she is at... i had my ex come back after 2 months but she didnt date anyone... im in a very similar situation and i think taking it very slow and going out to dinner and [censored] a little and just talking about how you both feel.. make sure she just isnt coming back to you bc she knows you are there for her in a selfish sense on her part.. but have a serious talk and you will most likely be able to see whats going on with her

[brad3]

Long distance relationships are incredibly difficult. If yall broke up for such a stupid reason I really don't think it will last. College is a time for unrestricted fun, have some.

[DrewDevil]

Ask her to do something sexual she wouldn't do before. If she does it, she really likes you and wants to win you back. If she won't, she's just lonely.