Whats the crossover point between a friendship and an affair?

[PokerPaul]

Is corresponding via email, or TXT cell about deep personal subjects, and keeping it from spouse an affair?

How about having the person drop by other persons place for a coffee and just chit chat...and not telling spouse about it. Is that an affair?

Or does an affair have to actually get to sex/intimacy stage for it to be considered that?

[mason55]

if you cant tell your wife about it you shouldnt be doing it, easiest explanation

[XXXNoahXXX]

I think if you are actively keeping this from your spouse then it gets into the gray area. Some people might have jealous spouses and not telling her you went to lunch with a female colleague is just to avoid jealousy. If you are just meeting with a female friend for lunch and talking politics and whatnot its not an affair. Also if you are using them as a female perspective to get in your wife's head, thats probably fine too.

Just don't start saying things like "you understand me so much more than my wife" or being super sneaky, like telling your wife you're going to the office when you're really goin to meet up with a woman.


also, putting it in someone is def. cheating as well.

[lostsoul]

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Is corresponding via email, or TXT cell about deep personal subjects, and keeping it from spouse an affair?

How about having the person drop by other persons place for a coffee and just chit chat...and not telling spouse about it. Is that an affair?

Or does an affair have to actually get to sex/intimacy stage for it to be considered that?

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Let me handle this one.

-A affair is sex or when u have deep feelings for the girl. If u aren't telling your wife u aren't telling her for a reason. If everything is cool and u are just close friends with her then why hide it? But if u entertain things in the back of your mind that u might want to take it further then yes that is a affair. It doesn't have to be just sex. But if u are going to the risk of having a affair u might as well be [censored] her because that is how most women will see it.

[FlyWf]

If you can't tell your spouse about it and it doesn't involve any romantic/physical aspects you should dump the jealous bitch/[censored].

[RikkiDee]

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also, putting it in someone is def. cheating as well.

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[PokerPaul]

why is everyone assuming i'm the person who is going around my wifes back?
Thats not the case.

But i agree with your assessment. The parties involved may very well be doing nothing BUT sharing an emotional bond, but if the extent of their relationship was discovered by spouse, they would probably assume that more than just 'talking' is going on.

So since they'd be doing the time, they might as well do the crime cuz that will be the price they will pay regardless.