Re: Marriage: One unfaithfulness exception, or none?
Don't get married.
I'm completely serious.
Don't get married.
If you are thinking about this now, you aren't ready to commit to one woman for the rest of your life. You just aren't. You want the benefits of being in a loving, stable relationship while still being able to get some strange every now and then. It doesn't work that way.
The only reason you'd possibly bring this up to your girlfriend is if you are already angling for forgiveness years in advance or you are subconsciously trying to wreck the engagement now (probably both). Best to cool it on the marriage front until you're able to commit with the knowledge that you will actively fight off the temptation when it comes rather than trying to arrange an excuse to give in to it.
edit: I know this comes off as pretty harsh, but it needed to be. If you're not ready to settle down (with all that entails), you're just setting yourselves up for a lot of pain. If you are thinking anything other than "[censored] no, I'd never cheat on her", you're pretty much doomed.
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