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Congratulations! Mazel Tov! etc

Old guy here, married 8+ years...

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You will from time to time find yourself in a fight that makes no sense at all but where you find yourself enraged beyond all reason. It will happen, it doesn't matter how much you love each other or how laid back and non-comabtive the two of you may be. Maybe you're an ass, maybe she's unreasonable, maybe a squirrel got in the effin dryer -- whatever.

Two things when that happens. Despite the fact that you're so angry you're really losing control of yourself, have enough self possession not to say anything that's over the line even if she is saying that kind of thing to you. You'll know what's over the line. You won't be able to take that back later, and even when you're all lovey dovey again, she'll remember those words. Second, when the fight is over, let it go as fast as possible - don't seeth, don't restart the fight, get over the need to be "right". Ask yourself if you enjoy being angry or enjoy having the woman that you love in your arms more.

Also, more generally, women really like to be listened to. Not all the time, necessarily, but at least occaisionally, really listen to her, give her your complete and undivided, uncritical attention.

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Yes this is gold.