[ELCowboy]

1) It's home poker, how strict do you really want to be?
2) I don't think asking someone what they had is rude, but asking them to turn it over is borderline. If they're dumb enough not to lie or actually turn over the cards and show, then that's the mucker's fault.
3) I count my pot. Although I think I do it a lot faster than counting chip by chip. I usually make a stack 15-20 high and just estimate from there.
4) He might be trying to get a tell from the guy when commenting about the hand. Yea, it is rude. But again, in a home poker game? I've seen a lot worse.