Re: Approaching girls
We are scared of being rejected because being rejected dosent feel normal. Basic psychology tells us that we try to avoid situations that make us feel uncomfortable and are atypical. If you could overcome this phobia of being rejected (which most people have) then the sitaution wouldnt feel abnormal to you. This would then equate to you approaching more women (since you now think nothing of the situation as a whole) and you would get laid much more often.
So how do you overcome this strictly mental hurdle? Repetition...repetition...repetition. You cant hit a home run if you dont step up to the plate. Repeat the process of approaching women and asking for their numbers or a date until you think nothing of it. Realize that during this process that you will inevitably have more than your fair share of rejections. This once again is just a function of stepping up to the plate - Never aspire to hit a home run if you cant stand the thought of a strikeout. Rejection might feel awkward the first five times, but it sure wont feel nearly as awkward the 50th time. Never crave a rose if you're afraid of grabbing a thorn, man.
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