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poin,

I couldn't read much of your post. We had a baby born premature. She lived for a day. I don't want to talk much about it beyond that.

(If you are already seeing a therapist or counselor, you can disregard what I have to say below.)

I recommend you see a therapist/psychitrist, not because they will tell you anything that will make you feel better, but because you will find it helpful to "unload" your thoughts and emotions on someone who has *no* emotional or familial stake in the matter.

There are many thoughts and emotions that will come up that you must get off your chest but that you cannot burden your loved ones with. Being able to just tell someone what was on my mind without fear of hurting them, or scaring them was very helpful to me.

Also, if you are having unusual problems with grief, someone who deals with this professionaly will be able to recognize this and help you.

I only saw my therapist alone, never with my wife, I wanted to be able to say anything. I think this was important to me.

By the way, I am NOT someone who is a big fan of "therapy", but it really did help. I no longer see a therapist, but if things got really dammed up again, I would call her in a second.

I am very sorry for your loss.