[danspartan]

She views you as her emotional support. Whether or not you see it that way doesn't matter. She isn't testing you. Life is testing you. Given the choice, are you a decent human being? Why would you add to her trauma?

It has nothing to do with your future plans for the relationship. You are in one with her now and she has a completely legit need for your support. Don't tell her what a sacrfice your making. Don't trivialize her pain. Just because they knew he was going to die doesnt mean it doesnt hurt. Just suck it up and go.