[DrewDevil]

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Does not compute. Why would you be a friend with someone who bosses you around, treats you like a 13 year old and constantly mocks you?

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I don't know. We don't do anything really outside of work. I don't know how to "unfriend" someone. She asks me to go to lunch with her and likes to come into my cubicle to tell me about her weekend getaways or her kid. That's what I meant by sort of a friend. Do you see why it is stressful? Imagine having someone who treated you as a work friend but then who talked down to you when you were working on the same project. She gets a very parental tone of voice with some of us, even with the boss.

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She obviously doesn't realize she's being an azzhole, or too self-absorbed to care.

Direct way to unfriend: the next time she is unprofessional towards you, say, "I really don't appreciate the way you are speaking to me. You don't need to belittle me or condescend to me to make your points. Please stop."

Less direct way to unfriend: decline all lunch invitations, do not engage in office chit chat. "I'm sorry, but I'm really busy right now." Acknowledge her but basically flatline and be all business in every interaction.

I know I am hopelessly generalizing here, but lots and lots of women are terrified that not everyone in the world likes them, and they will do anything to avoid having someone not like them.

In this situation, (a) why would you care if a terrible person like this likes you or not, and (b) if she starts to think you don't like her, maybe she'll start to change her obnoxious behavior towards you (and maybe even others too!).

Or maybe she'll kill herself, problem solved.