[El Diablo]

Dom,

I agree w/ pretty much everything in your post, especially the perplexing part, hence this thread. One comment, though.

"flamboyantly lisping gay men"

I think we can largely ignore those guys in this discussion, as I think most would agree that these guys use speech just like outrageous clothing and exaggerated limp wrists and prancing and stuff as ways to flaunt their gayness.