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But these are not necessarily blanket bad reasons. Lots of people might find these perfectly acceptable under some circumstances.

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GAH. THIS IS THE EXACT POINT I'M TRYING TO MAKE. Why does our society think this line of rationale is acceptable? It is my contention that having sex for these "bad reasons" is detrimental to one's overall happiness and well-being. Seeking validation from someone who knows very little about you can wreak havoc on one's overall psyche.

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You seem to be looking for more of a one size fits all approach to how people should behave. I'm not on board for such a thing. I think people will have widely varying importances that they assign to sex, and I think that is as it should be. If you would like to argue that for many people that valuation is too high, then I think you're probably right. However, to use one of your examples, I suspect there are many people for whom having sex as a distraction is outright positive, and not just not bad.