[Peter Harris]

I think it's a male/female divide imo (I'm grunching btw so this may have been said already). I think it's insane to think that being penetrated/penetrating has to be more intimate than oral contact. But Jenny seems to think that oral requires a degree of trust which needs to be gained post-coitus.

She thinks (paging Dr. Freud) that it's the male fear of being penetrated which leads many to think intercourse is more intimate than oral copulation.