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I think what he (and I) is contending is that the adults stop tormenting 14 year olds because they realize the effects that torment can have on a 14 year old.

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Huh? I don't think that's what he's saying at all. We're talking about peer interactions there. I also think it isn't very clear that the source of the torment matters very much to the 14 year old, but even if it did, this one would have perceived it as coming from a peer.

And again, writing off how unhappy and upset kids can be made by other kids (who will generally mob up to do it, which adults generally won't) as just "oh, that's standard kid stuff" seems to me kind of tone-deaf. Consider that in this case, if you think there's culpability, that the girl killed herself because of what she thought a teenage boy said.