Re: New to OOT. Have custody of my nephews. LONG
I think it depends on your relationship with the nephews. Were you there for them as they were growing up? Were you close to them from birth to now? I have 7 nephews. There are 2 of them that I would NOT risk my marriage over. I wasn't there when they were growing up, only dealt with them in the family for a few years and they are basically OK, but more towards the bad side so I would not choose them over my husband.
However, the other nephews I have been there from birth, been close to them and would take them over putting them in foster care in a heartbeat. If the husband doesn't agree then he has to go....it's blood relations, how can you put them in foster care where they can end up worse then what they are now because "noone cared".
Tough situation for you. I would only do it (keep the nephews) if I really loved and cared for them and was willing to lose the spouse over them.
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