Re: Which girlfriend/internet porn situation is worse? (SFW)
That was my first thought too, but there is a complex issue to this. Most women would not feel good about being on an online porn site, so it follows (not absolutely, but more likely than any other specific scenario) that if you found an ex on the site (with the ex's current BF) that:
1a. You have probably been to the site before (and during your relationship with her) and having not previously seen her, she (or the current BF) has...
1b. ... recently started putting the videos up (also, obvious due to it being the current BF on the site)
Since she was (more likely than not) not the type to do porn prior to and during your relationship, she has had some fundamental change in her life, very likely for the worst, (since making porn vids is generally not going to make her happy or improve her life/financial situation much--hence she is not doing it out of really wanting to do it).
On the other hand, a current GF making vids with the ex implies either:
2a. She is cheating on you, and also makes videos which you didn't know about or
2b. she made those videos prior to your relationship and the ex-BF (most likely) posted them online, or finally...
2c. she posted them online.
Either way, the #2 scenario with the current GF implies simply that either you do not know her as well as you would have liked, or that her ex is jealous and spiteful. In either case, she has only suffered the embarrassment of having the videos only. Whereas in the first scenario, she is more likely (than in the second) to have suffered some how in her life since you broke up, in addition to any embarrassment caused from having the videos online.
(Assuming similar women, the embarrassment factor, while possibly weighted, is given to be the same for both scenarios, since both situations are similar enough.)
I also put the "obvious" response in the poll, but thinking back on it, the other answer, while not hurting you as much, has the slight implication of being worse for her, statistically speaking. (Granted, it's a slippery slope I went down, but I believe each step to be the most probable step and thus the outlined scenario to be more probable than any other specific scenario.)
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