[gobbomom]

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I'm not having a funeral, I think they're dumb.

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I don't think you'll havemuch say in the matter.

EDIT: In what way do you find funerals dumb?

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of course I have a say in the matter. My kids know I don't want a funeral. Funerals serve 3 purposes:
1) to memorialize the dead person's life
I feel no need for this because the best things I accomplished in this life live on after me
2) to give a sense of closure
I think this is unnecessary because there never really is closure when the dead person's memory lives on forever. I'd prefer to remember someone, and have others remember me, as a living vibrant being.
3) to provide comfort to the surviving loved ones
I don't think there is any comfort involved in a funeral. I think it's a huge imposition to ask of those in mourning to entertain and put on a happy face for an audience. Or conversely, show how well or not they handle their very private feelings.