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There is a ton of great thoughts here.

Katy:


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I would think men are too visual for online dating to be successful and yet I've heard that it works.

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I don't agree with this. If women were not as visual as men, then all men would have equal success with on-line dating. It has been found that male's with red hair have the lowest success and response rate.

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is especially true for men. Many men would never be able to admit to society that they are attracted to "plus-sized women," but many are. I think that OL dating is a good outlet for these men to feel comfortable expressing their true desires.

According to a brothel madam, the best-looking girls are the least used. Men tend to only fantasize about dating the hottest thing on the block, but with ample opportunity to have on, they refuse, preferring to keep it a fantasy.

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I actually know a couple people who have met through online dating. The chemistry and dynamic between them is pretty interesting. I think people should try it and keep a very open mind.

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This would be true. I have had a female pen-pal for several years. The difference is that we met face-to-face first. I think that our "relationship" is unique, as I know a person as few people would ever know a person. Humans to be more honest with each other in writing than face to face. The difference is that the bonds are created first, then you meet, where it usually works the other way around.

MissT:

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I will say that I met my first husband online. Dated for 3 years, married for 5, still friends now.

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I created this post because I do want to hear success stories. I am fascinated by psycho-social behavior. I do not want you to feel threatened by the content of this post. One of my original points was that there is much more bad press surrounding this than good press. I would like to think that there is a good counter-balance to the bad press.

I would like to ask you some questions:

What drove you to join an on-line site? I know that you expect me to think you were desperate, but that is not how I think on this. My first thinking is that you were not able to access men in your own life. I used to take classes where the M:F ratio was something like 1:20. Although I did get hit on often, I constantly deflected them, because I did not want a love life to interfere.

How many attempts did you try before you found the satisfactory man?

What was your first impression on meeting a man that you could not be sure matched the picture, or did you wing it and just pressed on a person with no pic?

Do you think that getting to know a person before you meet face-to-face creates stronger, inseperatable bonds?

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it does cause me concern and make me pause when I know that my daughter has a My Space page and is meeting (ie talking too) people from all over the country/world. As a mother, YIKES!

As a grown female, I was/am cool with it, for myself.



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impresses me. It shows that you have an actual thinking brain. I would not think that you didn't, nor do I believe that all OL dater's are spaced out.

Blarg:

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Censored's disappearance, owing a lot of people money, is being discussed in another thread. He knew some of the people in real life, but perhaps not all of the ones he left owing money to. This kind of thing happens more than one would hope.

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This is something that I wanted to bring up in that thread, but I thought is was not the place for it, since it was a polite bashing/ I miss him thread. I only saw his name in passing, and I think very low of him knowing this.

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I've known a bunch of guys who play female characters in MMORPG's, and guys keep trying to court them. Some of them even go so far as to form "relationships" with the guys, for profit or just as a gas.

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It is sad how often this stuff takes place. It is criminal in my mind, and whatever happens to the perpetrator.... If they are stupid enough to give an address and info to where to send money, that's on them.

Chipwrecked:

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As a separate post, I've seen Internet romances wreck two marriages firsthand. Internet is serious business.

I met my wife on the Internet...



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This is The Lounge, and we don't appreciate one-line answers. I pose the same questions to you that I posed to MissT

Slow Play Ray:

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Well I gotta say that is some of the strangest [censored] I've ever read.

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A tad understated, but yea.

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That being said, the situation it is hardly what I would consider routine "online dating".

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I was hoping that this isn't the case. It would be odd to think that the sites stay popular if that was the case.

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I "met" my girlfriend online, but we simply exchanged a few emails to feel each other out, then met at a bar in person and hit it off in a big way. She's gorgeous, smart, and outgoing; our personalities complement each other perfectly, and we keep each other in check. The result would have been no different between us if the bar meeting came before the emails.



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This post was created for you sir. I hope to hear more from you also. I think it is great that you found a gorgeous catch. It is sometimes hard to believe that good looking people use these sites as well.