[2218]

A quick summary of me: I've been single for 3 years now. I found out recently (through psychiatry) that I have a fear of relationships. Basically, if I meet an interesting girl, I find sufficiently many reasons to not go anywhere with her.

So I've seen this girl a few times. She's alright. She's cute and has a nice body. Her most noteworthy flaw is that she's a bit of a loser. That's the one my mind plays on to get rid of her. I try to pass it off. After all, I'm a bit of loser, too. She's also not a good kisser. Whatever... just let it slide. After last night, I get the feeling she might also inept in bed. Now the clincher. Her father's coming to pick her up and she really wants me to go down on her. So in the half hour we have, I get ready to do so, and as I pull down her pants, I see the biggest bush I have ever seen in my life. I mean wow! Flashback to 70s porn. I am utterly repulsed. Safe to say my face went nowhere near there; my fingers did the dirty work. Apparently, every guy she'd been with before sucked balls. She got all clingy afterward and that turned me off even more. She then told me she really wished she didn't have to leave, while I'm thanking God her father's going to be here any minute because I seriously need to clear my head.

The biggest problem I have is whether or not this is just something my mind is jumping on to avoid any kind of a relationship with this girl. Is ending things with her because of her wild bush unreasonable? Is it unreasonable to ask her to shave it or terminate otherwise? Even if she shaves it, I have this feeling that I just won't be able to stand seeing her naked after the nastiness I witnessed.

Advice is much appreciated. (Anecdotes too!)

P.S. My shrink will be hearing all about this on Wednesday, but I really want some extra feedback ASAP.