[reup]

i'd suggest doing exactly what you proposed, reframe the situation. do some neuro-linguistic programming on yourself and remind yourself that in order to play on the edge you need to play at in order to be a baller you need to take the value of money off the table and make moves dependent on your opponent's weaknesses. if you are scared of big pots you are playing scared and thus have a weakness your opponent can exploit. do you want to be second best?

or think about it this way... if your mind is focused on being scared, aren't you paying attention to the same thing a girl is when she is talking to her girlfriends like omg is my hair okay i'm about to meet johnny for our date at date at dave and busters? meh that's was pretty bad, hopefully you get the point.