Re: Do kids benefit from a loveless marriage?
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I think if the parents are still respectful and actually still like one another, I think it benefits the kids. (The parents are another matter!) But if there is acrimony and disrespect then, no.
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This is the nub of it. If the parents are otherwise fine and not bitter/fighting and can conduct themselves as if all was fine - and couples can be happy in this setup, believe me - staying together is fine. IF they fight, then it is perhaps better to separate after attempts to make it work have all failed.
That's what my brain says.
My heart says that parents should do whatever they have to that best benefits their children, and I mean in terms of making their children well-adjusted, confident and independent people. Anything else is immature and selfish. Once you have children, I think you have a responsibility to really try and make it work - stuff which is deep-down 'well if I do stuff that'll make me happy, that'll dripfeed happiness down to my kids' is a childish and self-indulgent view of things.
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