[tarheeljks]

ok. the cliff notes version of the movie is that a long time couple ties the knot, but shortly thereafter the wife, Rachel becomes unhappy with her marriage b/c she has fallen in love with a woman named Luce who she met at her wedding (Luce designed the floral arrangements). the movie documents her mental struggle as she decides whether to be true to her husband Hek, whom she seems to love as a friend rather than a partner, or whether to become seriously involved with Luce. Luce decides that she cannot break up a marriage and Rachel decides that she cannot leave Hek in good conscience (i believe these decisions were independent, but i'm not 100% certain). however, Hek refuses to stand in the way of Rachel's invovlement and breaks off their marriage, afterwhich Rachel tracks down Luce and they live happily ever after, etc. etc.

one of my issues w/the movie was that Rachel's emotions for Hek shifted too quickly. prior to meeting Luce, she had no doubts about Hek being her soulmate, but in an instant that was erased. i think the scenario would have been more believable if her relationship w/Luce had been cultivated more, as opposed to being a love at first sight sort of deal (granted that would have made me dislike her even more).

i'm wondering what other poster's think about the following questions?

1) does the fact that Rachel was involved in a homosexual affair change your opinion of her? do you find it more difficult to empathize with her?

the fact that Rachel engaged in a homosexual affair did not affect my opinon of her. it was a bit of a red herring and i found it a little irksome b/c i felt like i was being trapped/forced into accepting it b/c it was a homosexual relationship. i didn't find it any more or less difficult to empathize w/her b/c the bottom line for me is infidelity = bad, so i spent most of the movie being pissed off at her.


2) do you find Hek's actions believable? if your significant other had a homosexual affair would it bother you more/less/the same than if he/she had a heterosexual affair?

i found his decision to let her go w/o a fight a little ridiculous, but i can let that go b/c it was supposed to be romantic and what not. i need to think about the second part to this question some more.