[Dids]

So here's the situation.

There exists, on my bus, a lady. I think I hate her but I don't have any good reaosons.

She's about 50, the kind of person who is rocking a slighly modernized beehive. Also the kind of person who after I've lost 100 lbs comes up and asks "have you lost some weight" and then the next day greats me with "hey skinny". She also has this annoying habit of attempting to talk to me when I've got headphones on, when a year plus worth of sampling should indiate to her that I can't hear anything until I take them off.

The extent of my relationship with her is forced small talk and a "hello" head nod on those occasions when I [censored] up and make eye contact with her when she arrives at the bus stop. (my friend who sometimes rides the earlier bus with her reports that she's also prone to having long mean spirited conversations on the bus on her phone with her daughter about the daughter's sex and drug addictions and he thinks she's basically a horrible person as well, but he's even more prone to rash judgements than I am and can't be trusted to report anything that's happened with any degree of truth, so there's a gain of salt here)

Yesterday, apparently working under the assumption that our relationship has been bolstered by the weight loss conversation, she starts try to talk to me as we both exit the bus, despite my walking ahead of her such that I can't see her and as mentioned before, headphones = I can't hear here. I get the feeling there's somebody behind me, yada yada she asks:

"Would you ride in with me tomorrow so I can bring my crate (I think she said "crate", at this point I'm so wtf-ed by what I consider to be the forwardness of her request that I'm not paying attention). I happen to truthfully not know what I'm doing tomorrow (aka today), so just tell her I can't commit (truth is that there's no way in [censored] I'm spending 30-45 minute in a car with some random bus person).

Then I happen to run into her at the bus stop that afternoon, and once again she attempts to talk to me when I can't hear, and all I get before we board the bus and I walk to a location I call "nowhere the [censored] near her" is some nonsense about how heavy whatever the [censored] it is is. (now I'm inferring that she didn't just want me to ride with her, but to carry whatever the hell this is to where ever she's going)

Questions:

1- is her request acceptable? We board and exit the bus from the same park and ride, so it's not like I'm really going out of my way, but we're not in the least bit friendly or familiar.

2- how many of you, in my spot, ride with the lady?

3- Shouldn't it be really [censored] basic to get somebody's attention before trying to talk to them when they're wearing headphones? I can homicide because of this, right?


Cliff notes: This is a long post about Dids and the bus, and if you're the sort who doesn't enjoy long form posts or Dids posts you probably won't like this much anyway. Now would be a good time to call me fat.