[jeffnc]

I don't really think you have a major gripe here. If the shoe were on the other foot, you might think to yourself you don't deserve the pot, but if your cards were in fact not mucked, and the dealer did in fact wait several seconds, you probably would have been happy with the dealer and continued tipping him, right? There are many situations where a dealer knows he can't win - no matter which way he goes, he's going to piss off one of the 2 parties. So which way does he go? He'd be getting tipped by the other woman, and if you left you'd be replaced by someone who would tip. You probably both did the right thing by keeping that woman at the table.