[DeezNuts]

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I lurk too much and post too little.

The key here is her father. If YOU are to talk to someone, it has to be her father, never the mother.

Her father is in a marriage and not happy. He may see that as the future for his daughter by marrying "Boss", but as he doesn't see another route for May, he might as well take it.

I'd do this:
1- Try to convince May to talk to mom, and explain she would'nt be happy with boss, blabla, never mentioning you. If it doesnt work out:
2- Either you talk to Father, or get her to talk to Father...

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You obviously don't know the dynamics of a traditional Chinese family. The mother wields all the power, the father is a eunuch.