Re: How to hold it together for an ill relative
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In a couple of days time I'm visiting a very close terminally ill relative in hospital. I'm afraid of turning into a sobbing wreck in front of them as I don't want to cause anymore distress.
Does anyone have any tips for holding it together?
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Pick a time at home(or anywhere not near the ill person) and just let stuff out. Let yourself become a sobbing mess. Accept the situation fully(though it won't be totally out of your system). This helps get it out of your system so you can then concentrate on those in the hospital that need you. Your head will probably feel much lighter allowing you to keep it together much easier.
I had to force myself to do that when I went through the death of my dad during his 15 days of hell fighting a ruptured AAA aneurysm. Another trick is to go online and learn about the condition that is affecting your relative. Basically, redirecting the energy into something productive.
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