[rothko]

deuce, that phrase implies abandonment and isn't applicable to you. as long as you maintain a solid relationship and give her as much love and attention as is possible/reasonable you will not be considered a deadbeat.

also, if your ex badmouths you to the kid, DO NOT PARTICIPATE. denigrating the other parent is a terrible thing to do in front of a child. you can't control your ex, but don't "fight back" except in the way that you will be bigger than her. give your daughter all the reason in the world to love you and trust you and she will figure it out on her own.

just try your best to be civil with your ex and don't get petty. she may or may not deserve your efforts, but your daughter certainly does. i wish the best for all three of you.