Re: My GF wants me to pick her up (am I an ass?)
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I really hate the fact that it's become something that I have to say no to. Like, if she never expected it, then I would just do it once in a while to surprise her and it would be a positive thing when I did it, but instead now it's like a negative thing when I don't do it.
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I know exactly what you mean. Be careful about doing nice things, lest they turn into obligations!
As to your question, it all depends on circumstances. My gf used to work swing shift, and I would drive 20+ minutes each way to pick her up, every night at 11pm. She would take the bus there, but she said the walk from work to the bus was sketchy at night and some guy was following her one time - so what else could I do?
Likewise with yer gf - if she's sick, in a bad area, carrying a lot of stuff, etc... you should help her out. If she expects you to fight through rush-hour traffic in the city just because she's too lazy to take a bus or the bart, then no [censored] way.
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