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I dated a woman that had herpes for 3 years. She was mostly free of outbreaks, and during those times we had sex without me using a condom.

Maybe I was just lucky, but as far as I know I wasn't infected. We broke up for other reasons, and the herpes was not an issue for me at all. She worried about us having sex a lot more than I did. I'm not saying you should do what I did, but that is how I handled it.

From everything you have said here and in OOT, my opinion is that you should go ahead and stay with her for the long term. Sex is important, but if you really love each other you will find ways to work through this issue.

I hope things work out for you.

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So can you only get herpes if you she has an outbreak and you have intercourse during that period of time? I was under the impression that it is still possible to catch herpes when it is in a dormant state.

Either way I'd be using condoms.

Thanks for your reply.