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Ok I know this is probably a subjective decision but I wanted to get input from other smart people on this forum.

If you love a girl and are extremely compatible with her, it is then fair to say that she is "marriage material?" But here is the dilemma, she has an STD. Therefore, if you do commit to sexual relations, which almost everyone does if two people are in love. You will inevitabley get the STD that she has, do you still proceed?

I know that true compatiability is very rare, therefore I do not take this question lightly. Is an STD for the rest of your life worth a "chance" to find someone that you could spend forever with?

Let me also note that I have never been more attracted to someone and I have met a decent amout of girls. I am leaning towards the commitment with the possiblity of getting an STD and having her break up with me in a year or so, but that is the calculated risk.

If you were in a similar situation how would you proceed?

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I dont know how I would proceed - but are there not ways to avoid contracting the disease yourself? My first instinct is lifetime partnership including safe-sex (and a hope that a cure will be discovered). This seems better than resigning yourself to getting sick too (additionally - does she feel the same way if she is happy for you to risk getting her disease? If I was her, I think I'd be insisting my true love not get infected also).

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Condoms CAN prevent the STD but it is hit or miss. Sometimes it can still go through the condom. Would the best approach to remain abstinent or to just say f.ck it and have sex knowing that I will ultimately get an STD. There is no cure for herpes at this time.

I know that relationships are not all about sex but showing physical affection for each other is definitely an important
aspect especially if you sleep in the same bed.

Remaining abstinent while "waiting for a cure" seems unreasonable.