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Old 04-27-2006, 01:42 PM
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Default Re: How long to wait before telling your child they\'re adopted?

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I dont think you could peg an age....I would look more at there personal maturity level....

....better questions How would you tell em?

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Well in regards to the maturity level, I thought it would be best to break it to them while still at a lower level of maturity, so I could keep it simple and have an easier time reinforcing that I'm still their parent, it changes nothing, that I still love them more than anything, etc...

At that age I think it would be easier for them to take it in stride, whereas by the time you reach 9 or 10 I think learning something like that could make one question everything they've ever been taught to believe in. In that regard I would think if they made it past 8 years not knowing, it might be better to wait until their late teens or adulthood.

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This sounds like pretty sound logic. I agree with you.
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