A \'let\'s be friends\' girl msgs me back... what\'s the play?
 

So I went out on a couple dates with this girl a few weeks back, and at the end of the 2nd date, she delivered the 'let's just be friends' talk. Ok, fine, no problem. I was moderately interested in this girl, but not to the point where I was devastated to hear that. It wasn't a big surprise anyway - although our conversations were really good, I just didn't really feel that chemistry, although that's kind of hard to gauge on the first couple of dates anyway.

But whatever. She certainly wasn't the first person to give me the 'let's be friends' speech, and probably wouldn't be the last.

However, today she did make herself the first person to ever deliberately get back into contact with me. Her message:

I don't remember how our last correspondence ended, but I don't want any bad or uncomfortable feelings fossilized between us. I think you're a damn interesting guy and I really did have great fun discussing this and that with you. You certainly are a challenge -- and that's meant to be a compliment. That's all I really wanted to say.

Oh, and thanks again for the CD [note: We'd exchanged cd's of mp3s of our favorite music at that 2nd date]. I can't believe you crammed all those albums. Thanks, really. I haven't quite got around to listening to all the Spoon albums, but that's because I'm still obsessed with Voxtrot -- which was a nice surprise on the CD.

I hope work is going well and that you are having success on Match [note: I met this chick online].

Right now I'm under a semi-quarantine. Bacterial infection. But the sexy kind, of course.

Ok, so seriously, why the hell would she send a message like this? Does she actually seriously want to just be friends? I hadn't contacted her at all since the end of that 2nd date (which was about 3 weeks ago), and so I figured this whole thing was over and finished. Is she having second thoughts and wants me to SIIHP? I'm confused.

OOT, please help an idiot out.

Re: A \'let\'s be friends\' girl msgs me back... what\'s the play?
 

girls are hardwired to mindfuck. She doesn't want you. She just wants you to want her.

gl hf

Re: A \'let\'s be friends\' girl msgs me back... what\'s the play?
 

Run as far and as fast as you can.

Re: A \'let\'s be friends\' girl msgs me back... what\'s the play?
 

Yea, I had a feeling... so you would just ignore the message completely?

Re: A \'let\'s be friends\' girl msgs me back... what\'s the play?
 

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girls are hardwired to mindfuck. She doesn't want you. She just wants you to want her.

gl hf

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yeah and she writes like one of those girls that is preening and insecure about her intelligence and has to constantly prove how literate she is. i would just send her a note that says, 'glad you liked it. hope you feel better,' with nothing about future contact or anything. that's only if, on the off chance she is interested or could become so, you don't want to completely burn bridges. if you don't care (and it sounds like maybe you shouldn't) then just ignore her.

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Yea, I had a feeling... so you would just ignore the message completely?

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Will you run into her again in the future?

Re: A \'let\'s be friends\' girl msgs me back... what\'s the play?
 

Typical "oh sh*t, maybe you were the best I can do on match" re-connection after she has dated a handful of other schlubs that have failed in the 3 weeks since you last saw her.

Re: A \'let\'s be friends\' girl msgs me back... what\'s the play?
 

Don't respond.

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Yea, I had a feeling... so you would just ignore the message completely?

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Will you run into her again in the future?

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Nope, she lives about 20 miles away.

Re: A \'let\'s be friends\' girl msgs me back... what\'s the play?
 

My usual response here:

Reply with "Of course I'm a damn interesting guy. Let me know when you get over your "bacterial infection" so I can take you back to my place and bang the [censored] out of you."

You will either bang her or never her from her again. Either way problem solved and no more friends zone.

Note: If you do bang her then don't call or contact her for at least a week, probably two to be safe.