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Wow.

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I'm sorry-- hope everything works out for you and your wife.

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I am so very sorry for the loss of your child. Your post was heart wrenching, yet beautiful, and I hope that writing it is helpful in your journey of healing.

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I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your wife.

I would like to say more to help ease the pain that I would never wish on anyone, but....

Stay strong!

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private joker, 4 high, bottomset, skunkworks, funkymunky, ImsaKidd, TIEdub14, sarahbellum, Glo-

Thank you.

lippy-

I think it's a little therapeutic. It's hard to know. It all goes in waves, and some things seem more therapeutic at different times.

IggyWH-

I don't even know how to go about thinking about that. I will share a paraphrase of something I said when we planted the tree: we had so many hopes and dreams for Allan. So many things we were going to do with him, teach him, show him, learn from him. We are going to have more children. Maybe, when we hope for things for those children, when we have dreams for them, when we see them, maybe we'll see a glimmer of what would have been with Allan. Whatever happens, we will never forget him. I don't think I can answer your question, but I do know that I'm deeply sorry for your family's loss.

inside??-

Thanks. "Don't worry about not saying the "right" things. Be there for your friends in time of need." QFT.

EMc-

Thank you. I don't know what people can do. Sometimes, it just helps to know people are there. Sometimes, it helps to have something like poker to fill the time that seems so empty. I'll let you know if I think of something, but thank you so much for asking.

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my condolences.... [img]/images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]

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As a 22 year old I can not imagine the pain that you are going through.

I am terribly sorry for your loss. I wish you and your family all the best in coping with this tragedy.

-Steve

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This is the saddest post ever written on 2+2. I have goosebumps.

Sorry, man.

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I can't relate directly, but unfortunately I have had a couple of friends w/ similar experiences. All I can say is that you and especially your wife will need more support and strength than you can realize even now, and for longer than you might imagine. It sounds like you have a good support system around you, but don't think there's anything wrong about feeling like you do right now for quite some time longer. Six weeks is nothing here and getting anywhere close to "normal" can and should take a long time.

A friend's baby had many complications during childbirth and due to various periods of lack of oxygen ended up with severe brain and organ damage. I can only look to them for thoughts on what to suggest to you. Talking to them, they say the best thing that they have been able to do is, as painful as the ordeal has been and will continue to be, is to share their experiences and fears and doubts and worries and regrets with their friends and family. As much as part of you might want to, there's no way to lock soemthing like this away, but it's also incredibly hard to share.

I wish you the best of luck in moving forward with your lives as best you can.

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This post made me cry. I'm so sorry for your loss.