Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ensues.
 

OK, so as documented in a previous thread, I recently broke up with my fiance, and as such I'm stuck with an apartment that's far beyond my means. I'm paying ~53% of my take-home income on the apartment, and that's without utilities, cable, etc.

Anyway, bottom line is I'm pretty poor for the time being. A girl who was fired from my company about a month ago e-mailed me asking if I wanted to go to happy hour. I work in the financial district in NYC, which is a pretty expensive place to go out. And let me note - I'm not interested in this girl physically whatsoever.

So we meet up for happy hour, get about four rounds and some food. I ask her if we should get the check, she says yeah, but maybe we can stop somewhere on the way home, and she'll buy me a drink. This might not come across that well in type, but she was basically insinuating that she expects me to pick up this bill (which is about $80).

I sit there for about a minute, because I don't know how to react. Do I just eat it and pay the bill? Or do I say something?

Eventually I say, "Oh, are we not splitting this?"

She says, "Oh, yeah, we can..."

And then basically it's really awkward as I try to explain to her, 'if it were last week, I'd pay, but I'm sort of in a weird situation' etc. Isn't this weird that she'd just assume I'm paying for the drinks SHE INVITED ME TO?

If I had any interest in her, this situation would be much different I guess.

Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
 

If a girl I'm not interested in asks me out for drinks, at no point would I expect to be paying for her. It's pretty awkward for her to drop that bomb on you. Is she interested in you?

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why should u have to explain to her at all. this friend blows ass unless ur in the habit of paying for her when you go out. I guess you could've been more smooth, but that's not your fault

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If a girl I'm not interested in asks me out for drinks, at no point would I expect to be paying for her. It's pretty awkward for her to drop that bomb on you. Is she interested in you?

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why should u have to explain to her at all. this friend blows ass unless ur in the habit of paying for her when you go out. I guess you could've been more smooth, but that's not your fault

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It was way too awkward to be smooth at this point.

Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
 

no way should you pay this or think about paying this

Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
 

in the grown-up world, i think someone like Dear Abby would say that whoever makes the invitation should pay unless something else is agreed upon beforehand. obviously it's often a little different when girls are involved, but if i were in your situation, i would expect to split the tab or be treated, not to be footing the whole bill.

i think the way you handled it was fine, and that your little explanation helped make it less awkward for both of you -- she probably felt embarassed for assuming that you were paying once she found out you weren't!

Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
 

Ask her if she will blow you for the difference.

Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
 

No need to be awkard. Just say "sorry I'm kind of poor right now". And yeah she shouldn't have assumed. Fairly standard chick move.

Re: Friend that\'s a girl expects me to pay for drinks, awkwardness ens
 

one of two things happened here

1. she likes you
2. she called you because she wanted someone to buy her drinks and thought you might do it