RiverFenix\'s random advice, learnings, truths, etc about women.
 

The following are generalizations. They’re always exceptions but I believe these to be true to 95%+ of the hetero female population. I’m no expert so feel free to disagree. All of these are based off of women under 25. Feel free to agree, disagree, add more, whatever.

If sharing a bed sleep be the one that sleeps closer to the door. This makes her feel safer because she has subconscious crazy thoughts of someone attacking her in the night and youre in front of the person and offer protection.

If walking down the street be the one that walks closer to the street. This makes her feel safer because she has subconscious crazy thoughts of a car hitting her and you’re in front of the car and offer protection.

You don’t have to open the door for her, but you should. Always hold it open for her.

Women associate so much more with smell than men do. Even a simple scent can trigger tons of memories. Always smell good.

A spritz of cologne in the hair before you go out is key. That is if you don’t have fancypants smelling shampoo.

If you’ve ever had multiple hookups with one female and she takes it slow with you sexually it’s because she really likes you and doesn’t want to be considered a whore or have her feelings let down before she gets too attached to you. Or she’s extremely religious, or 14. This should be obvious but some people think it is more based on something about them instead of her feelings.

If you can make her laugh, then you can make her do anything. Stupid quote a lot of women know but it’s extremely true. Having a great sense of humor is so underrated by guys I know. It is better to be the one making her laugh as opposed to the person that makes the group laugh – being able to do both is even better.

If you don’t have a favorite book, author, movie, and song she will think less of you. She has all of these and would love to talk to you about them if you’re generally interested.

Her dad had more of an influence on her than anyone else in her life. Finding out what her relationship was like with her father was will give insight into so many of her personality traits.

She is a better liar than you will ever be.

Depending on the situation she may never want to hear about the time you cheated if it was a one night stand.

She you’re hooking up with her and she asks you to cum in a certain place it is for one of three reasons
1) Cosmo/friend/something told her that she thinks you’ll find it because it’s like being in a porn.
2) She is really, really enjoying the lay and the thought to have you finish there just popped into her head and she wants to end on that great note
3) She has an odd fetish and prefers for you to do that (least likely!)

If you’ve ever wondered why she has a boyfriend, friend, ex that most would consider pathetic it’s because she thinks she can help him and change him. By showing her genuine reasons why you need her she is more likely to get attached as she fulfills her innate need to help. It also gives her confidence.

Girls either genuinely like giving head or they do it because they expect something in return.

They’re tons of songs that get all women to think about sex. The song could do it for a variety of reasons: it’s hot, the lyrics are endearing, it’d be good to have sex to, she could strip to it, etc. Some broad ones off the top of my head are
Glycerine – Bush
Closer – NIN
D’yer Mak’er – Led Zeppelin
Sic Transit Gloria…Glory Fades – Brand New
Colorblind – Counting Crows
Talk Show Host - Radiohead

They’re two types of women in the world, those who like to be fingered and those who prefer oral. Most like both, but every single one has a preference. Women who like to be eaten out believe they are princesses. It’s harder to find a word to classify women who prefer to be fingered but in general they’re more sexually aggressive, like alpha males, and are more self-confident.

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I agree with lots here. but I'll sum it up:

- girls are [censored] crazy. all of them.

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Her dad had more of an influence on her than anyone else in her life. Finding out what her relationship was like with her father was will give insight into so many of her personality traits.


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These are merely the truest words that hath ever been spoken.

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The only thing I can add from living with 4 girls at one point, when they meet a guy at a bar and he dosent call right away, like 2-3 days It drives them crazy and makes them want the guy more. Common sense, but true.

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"They’re two types of women in the world, those who like to be fingered and those who prefer oral. Most like both, but every single one has a preference. Women who like to be eaten out believe they are princesses. It’s harder to find a word to classify women who prefer to be fingered but in general they’re more sexually aggressive, like alpha males, and are more self-confident."

I think you have it backwards here. Usually the women who like to get eaten out like it because they feel like they are in control over the guy. In my experience, the girls who liked being fingered usually lacked a backbone or were too self conscious to voice their opinions (especially in the bed). The ones who like to get eaten out usually are the ones that are more confident, and usually a lot better in bed too.

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The only thing I can add from living with 4 girls at one point, when they meet a guy at a bar and he dosent call right away, like 2-3 days It drives them crazy and makes them want the guy more. Common sense, but true.

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I agree with this, because listen, if a girl gave u her number and genuinly wants to hear from you, she shouldnt mind if you call the next day or that night, whichever. but if u do wait, it does cause them to want you more. that and you know, frankly, I got my own [censored] and life going on, and Ill call when I have time to hang out.

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btw good music choices. for NIN Id like to add
1. Where is Everybody? (Fragile - Second disc)
2. The Mark has been made (Fragile - Second disc) (this is an excellent [censored] song, it really heats up half way in, but its a hell of a thing to screw to)

there really should be a thread on the music choices to [censored] to, to make love to, etc. I consider myself a conisour in this area, I used to have all sorts of playlists set up for whatever happened to be in the sauce that day.

eidt - oh yeah, throw in A Perfect Lie (the Gabriel and Dresden Remix) by Engine Room, off the nip tuck soundtrack.
Dirge by Death in Vegas is good too. For those not in the know it was the song in the Black Dahlia trailer.

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She is a better liar than you will ever be.

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I don't think this one is true, a lot of girls I know are incredibly bad liars.

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What if she doesn't know her Dad? Then what? What does that say about her personality traits?

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Good love music:

"Can't Get Enough of Your Love, Babe" by Barry White

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I'll add a piece of advice:

Try not to get in serious relationships with girls with parents who got divorced during their formative years (hard to find nowadays, I know). They're almost invariably [censored] up in some way.

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Colorblind – Counting Crows

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Really? I thought you had a lot of good points...this just struck me as odd.

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D’yer Mak’er – Led Zeppelin

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You must be joking.

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Great advice, seriously.

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A spritz of cologne in the hair before you go out is key. That is if you don’t have fancypants smelling shampoo.

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I would caution be very very careful not to overdo this. Too much cologne is pretty disgusting to a lot of women.

After living with a couple girls and basically being a fly on the wall for all their girl stuff here's what I learned:

Women are very good at not asking the questions they don't want to hear the answer to. Don't offer anything potentially hurtfull w/o being asked, even if it feels so obvious it's like an elephant in the room.

When you first meet a girl, in the time before your next encounter either she's going to completely obsess about you, or she's going to be mildly interested at best. There is no middle ground. It should be pretty easy to figure out which category you're in and play accordingly.

When women deal with each other it's all about being positive. You can say anything you want behind your friend's back, but you better be supportive to her face. With men it's often the opposite. I think this may be the single biggest source of hurt feelings, misunderstandings, etc. between younger men and women.

A friendly hello and a smile whenever you come home, even if you're feeling like crap, makes a huge difference to household harmony. Women get this a lot better than men. Same goes for interior decoration.

Ultimately everyone just wants to get what they want. Men and women simply have different ways of going about it. Neither is higher or lower on the moral scale. (my opinion)

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Good choice: "In Your Eyes" Peter Gabriel

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im so happy my gf hates perfumes, colognes, fruit smelling sprays, body lotions and anything else besides baby powder and the natural smell of soap. cologne is [censored] nasty.

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"Girls either genuinely like giving head or they do it because they expect something in return."

or its done soley for your benefit which is the #1 reason imho.

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I think it would be a good thread if everyone put songs you could put on a MO (makeout) mix. Not sure if it's been done before. Portishead makes some songs that a lot, lot of women like but I don't know if it was quite universal to include across the list.

Ikonoclast,
I agree somewhat in that girls who like oral may have more confidence. However, girls who prefer oral feel that it's you pleasing them and they are satisfied getting off that way and that comes back to the whole princess thing. Girls who prefer fingering are thinking about what comes next and prefer the real thing.

BPS,
95%+ will be better liars. Theyre awful ones, sure, but on a whole women are better because they have the ability to direct conversations better.

calmb4storm,
Yeah, colorblind is one of those emotional songs. I was surprised too.

Ads,
Love song with lotsa sexual ohhs and ahhs. You don't agree? I thought this was one of the better examples for rock and roll.

Yeah, never overdo the the cologne or any scent for that matter. It can't hurt to put a spray of a good cologne on.

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You two are thinking too hard (although the fact that you are thinking about it at all is a huge compliment to both of you). Oral is usually the best way to make us come (direct stimulation to the clitoris), but sometimes we just want to get both, or get one, before total penetration.

Don't overthink yourselves, just ask. And if the chick is too timid, keep on asking, until she is comfortable giving answers. It may take a few times, but eventually she will tell you what she wants and/or guide you in the right direction.

The difference between passive and dominant women isn't necessarily whether we like oral or not, it's mostly how we communicate what we want, and how quickly we are willing to communicate what we want and have you do it.

Also, some women are very, very aggressive and dominant in real life, but passive in bed. This is not as rare as you'd think. I tend to be extremely masculine and assertive IRL, but take a more passive role in sex. It's more of a turn-on than you'd believe, especially with a partner who knows this, and can himself be dominant sexually.

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"They’re two types of women in the world, those who like to be fingered and those who prefer oral. Most like both, but every single one has a preference. Women who like to be eaten out believe they are princesses. It’s harder to find a word to classify women who prefer to be fingered but in general they’re more sexually aggressive, like alpha males, and are more self-confident."

I think you have it backwards here. Usually the women who like to get eaten out like it because they feel like they are in control over the guy. In my experience, the girls who liked being fingered usually lacked a backbone or were too self conscious to voice their opinions (especially in the bed). The ones who like to get eaten out usually are the ones that are more confident, and usually a lot better in bed too.

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river,

I agree that girls are generally better liars, and better at detecting lies. What I meant to say is that most people are really, really bad liars.

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If walking down the street be the one that walks closer to the street. This makes her feel safer because she has subconscious crazy thoughts of a car hitting her and you’re in front of the car and offer protection.





Just a bit of trivia. This is considered good manners because back when there was no indoor plumbing in the middle-ages, people would throw thier bucket of poop out the window, so the girl should be as close to the building as possible as to avoid the bucket of poop flying at the street.

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Yeah, or when roads were still mostly unpaved, if a car or horse splashed a puddle, the guy got hit and not the girl.

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Just a bit of trivia. This is considered good manners because back when there was no indoor plumbing in the middle-ages, people would throw thier bucket of poop out the window, so the girl should be as close to the building as possible as to avoid the bucket of poop flying at the street.

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What a great first date icebreaker as your walking down the street.