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What describes how you typically celebrate your birthday or birthdays of friends and families?

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family: usually steak @ home

friends: dinner out / party / present depending on closeness.

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I spent mine in a casino playing limit hold 'em this year. Didn't do anything. The year before I spent it at work all day.

Meh. I'm old.

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for my 30th birfday I was at nath's house.

he wasn't there ldo

then I drove around

My buddies 30th is tonight and I've tricked him into coming to a party where a bunch of people will be surprising him with balloons which is funny cuz he hates birfdays.

Hence the pole in the op is flawed ducy?

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Daughter (2 1/2): Party, presents, etc etc etc.

Wife: Dinner, possibly a present if something catches my eye in the week prior.

Mother, Father, Sister: Phone call.

Friends: Phone call if I remember.

Me: Nada

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did you forget to log out of mr francis?

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hahaha

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yeah the detectives are gonna hit his one hard.. wife, mother, friends.. 2.5 yr old daughter.

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use of nada, poor marriage skills, general lack of interest in other's feelings...

it could be any ootiot honestly

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girlfriend- gave her some gifts a week or two before. just saw things i wanted to get her and used birthday as the excuse. day of, i was busy all day, but we went out to a nice dinner, just the two of us.

myself- same

friends- we'll go out to a bar and i'll buy em a drink or two, but no gifts or anything

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friends- we'll go out to a bar and i'll buy em a drink or two, but no gifts or anything

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it all depends on what I'm feeling like that year. This past year, I just cracked open an expensive bottle of wine and watched teh FA Cup on PPV. Two years ago a few friends and I went into NYC and dropped a ton of money.

I really don't like doing all that much special for my birthday as I've been dissapointed more often then not, so now I just like to chill and do what i feel like doing

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Low key dinner with a couple people. If others saw your table they wouldn't even know it was somebody's birthday


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I haven't done anything more than this for anyone in years.

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SO: Dinner, possibly a BJ if I'm feeling generous.

Parents, siblings: Phone call if I remember

Friends: Nothing unless they're throwing a party.

Daughter: ROYALTY, in 3 weeks it's her quinceanera, costing about 5K for her bday party. Her Sweet 13 was about 3K and next year for her Sweet 16, I'll be taking her and 3 friends and a friend for me on a cruise (3-4k?). Yeah, she's spoiled like that.

Me: PARTY!!! It's "MY" day and I do whatever I want to do all day long, then have a great dinner with friends/family and then go clubbin.

T

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MissT74,


I think I hate you.

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LOL, why??

T

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MissT74,


I think I hate you.

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QFT. I probably hate your daughter too FWIW.

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because you are probably like one of those parents on MTV super sweet 16.

no kid should be spoiled like that.


also, "if im feeling generous". if that's really your attitude im guessing your SO is finding other women who are more generous.

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QFT. I probably hate your daughter too FWIW.

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I agree completely. There's no reason to be spending so much on b'day parties.

This isn't being jealousy btw, it's just redic to spoil children like that.

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Pfft.

I raised my daughter as a single, BROKE, parent for the first 10 years of her life. Now I have the means, and I enjoy spoiling/splurging on her. HOWEVER, let the record show that she is one of the best kids out there and is not even close to being ANYTHING like a MTV Super Sweet Brat. She's spoiled, but not a brat.

The whole "if I'm feeling generous" thing is more tongue in cheek, but if you think about it...you don't do a sex act unless you're in the mood.

T

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MissT,

Now I ain't saying you a golddigger.....

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I makes my own dollahs.

T

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Am I the only guy that thought it was awesome when your parents rented a nintendo for your b'day when you were a kid? Like 10 bucks and it made my weekend each time.

fwiw I wasn't allowed to own a gaming system as it would destroy my mind as my parents said. (my bros and I had a hidden snes from like the age of 11-14 for me, but it was found by parents eventualy and sold)

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HOWEVER, let the record show that she is one of the best kids out there and is not even close to being ANYTHING like a MTV Super Sweet Brat.

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This reads like a quote straight from every parent on that show. "Oh, but she's WORTH IT! I'm not spoiling her, I just want to give her the best!"

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LOL, yeah, probably. But there are a few posters here that have actually met her and can attest to my statement. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

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I raised my daughter as a single, BROKE, parent for the first 10 years of her life.

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SO: dinner, possibly BJ if I'm feeling generous

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Now that I have the means

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I don't think your allowance counts. Also, parents of brats always think that they are the only ones in the universe capable of spoiling their child w/o making her a brat.

Isn't the whole point of the quinceanera that it's the Spanish equivalent of a Sweet 16? and she's getting both? And wtf is a Sweet 13? I have a friend that got presents on his 1/2 birthday, your daughter sounds like him.


You say she's not a brat, so please conduct an experiment for me. Plant a hidden camera and then tell her that money is tight right now so the party is off or downgraded or something. Then we'll see how much of a brat she is.

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MissT,

You say you go clubbin. I'm really struggling to imagine what a nightclub in Kingman looks like. I'm picturing a wooden shed with NASCAR posters on the inside, a boombox, some shotguns, and shot specials on Old Grand Dad. If this isn't right it has to be close.

EDIT: and Natty Light on tap LDO.

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Low key dinner with a couple people. If others saw your table they wouldn't even know it was somebody's birthday


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I haven't done anything more than this for anyone in years.

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I think most respondents in this thread, including the OP, are <25. Because after that one they're all pretty meh, except for the milestones like 30 and 40. In fact it seems a lot of people I know, especially women, try to downplay it cuz it makes them feel old. That doesn't stop most employers from passing a card around and meeting for cake in the conference room at 2PM.

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wow miss t you sound horrible

there is no reason to spend 5k on a teenager for pretty much anything other than school or a car. holy christ.

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*Shrugs*

I obviously have issues with money, but I honestly don't see anything wrong with splurging now that I'm able to. It's not just being dead broke the first 10 years of her life, but also growing up broke/poor myself. I remember the nights where popcorn was all we had for dinner. So if I want to spoil and splurge on my loved ones now that I can, why does that make me so horrible?

If I told my daughter right now that the party is cancelled, she would be dissapointed, but if I told her it was because of lack of funds/money, she would be totally OK with it, I know this because it's happened before and as soon as I say "...no money..." she totally understands.

We actually have downgraded her party already, from having a court of 10 people to having only VIP people. (This prevents me from having to buy the dresses for the girls and renting the tuxes for the guys).

T

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MissT,

You say you go clubbin. I'm really struggling to imagine what a nightclub in Kingman looks like. I'm picturing a wooden shed with NASCAR posters on the inside, a boombox, some shotguns, and shot specials on Old Grand Dad. If this isn't right it has to be close.

EDIT: and Natty Light on tap LDO.

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LOL, very very true. The good thing though is that we're only about 20 mins from Laughlin and there's a few good clubs over there. Also, most of my birthdays are spent in Vegas and I'm there about 1-2 times a month, so I go clubbin over there. I can recommend some very good spots in Vegas!!

T

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I obviously have issues with money, but I honestly don't see anything wrong with splurging now that I'm able to.

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what's wrong with it is no kid needs people buying tuxes and dresses and god knows what else for a birthday party. it sends a terrible message to your kid about how you show your affection for a loved one, and teaches them to spend money irresponsibly. it gives them unreasonable expectations about money and gifts and quite frankly it's just wasteful.

you can try to argue with me your 13 or 15 year old girl is smart enough to know the difference and understand money isn't the only way to prove love for someone. you're wrong. she might be able to hear that from you in a vacuum and repeat it, but she internalizes what actually HAPPENS far more easily.

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LOL @ you early twentysomethings with no kids trying to tell some chick with a teenager how she should raise her child. God forbid she should make her kid feel special the one time she turns fifteen, even if it's some sort of tradition. Make her eat a cake made of sand and mud, that'll teach her that she's nothing special.

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Er, I hate getting involved with oot nit fests, but people without kids should usually stfu on parenting issues.

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LOL @ you early twentysomethings with no kids trying to tell some chick with a teenager how she should raise her child. God forbid she should make her kid feel special the one time she turns fifteen, even if it's some sort of tradition. Make her eat a cake made of sand and mud, that'll teach her that she's nothing special.

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trust me, i know about spoiled teenagers. it's usually worse if they have been poor for a good chunk of their lives, because they think getting money and spending it on themselves is the only way to prove they are successful.

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A Quinceanera is a very traditional and special occasion in the hispanic culture. http://www.quinceanera-boutique.com/...atradition.htm

Read a little bit before judging about "tuxes and gowns" and such.

Also, most parents of the quince girl get sponsors to pay for different parts of the ceremony/party and usually only spend a few hundred dollars, even though the party usually costs around 15-20K total.

I think 5K is not so bad, and I'm doing it all on my own, no sponsors.

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T

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yes i know what a quinceanera is and have been to several myself. they very often get done for a lot less than 5k much less 15-20k.

i suppose a thirteenanera is also an incredibly significant tradition, right? and the sweet sixteen, that too.

lol

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My daughters dress for the party: (NT! You'll love this!!)

http://www.davidsbridal.com/quincean...p;prodgroup=16

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yes i know what a quinceanera is and have been to several myself. they very often get done for a lot less than 5k much less 15-20k.

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I call BS on this.

LOL at myself for the 13th party and next years party, but (shrugs) what can you do? I do it my way, you do yours your way. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

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yes i know what a quinceanera is and have been to several myself. they very often get done for a lot less than 5k much less 15-20k.

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I call BS on this.



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Allow me to correct myself. I call BS on this IF there are no sponsors. If you have sponsors for the cake, the dress, the band, the ballroom, the courts dresses, the courts tuxes, the party gifts/favors, the reception/catering...then YES, it would be WAY less then 5K.

If you don't have the sponsors, then it would be very difficult to do. Shoot, I thought I was doing great with only 5K.

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