Stranger Approaches My Daughter, Gives Her a Present
 

So I'm waiting outside of Mimi's Cafe for a table for my 2 1/2 year old daughter and I to have lunch together. We're sitting out there and a guy walks outside to have a smoke and pulls out a pack of reds. Then, he comes and sits strangely close to us. Before I even really have a chance to think wtf? he says hi to my daughter and gives her this:

http://i32.photobucket.com/albums/d3...Slim/cross.jpg

And says "Happy Sunday!" like three times. My daughter said "What's this?" and I said "It's a present!" I was so dumbfounded I told my daughter to say thank you, sat there awkwardly for a couple of minutes, and then went inside with her to see where we were on the list. As we were walking away the guy said "Happy Sunday!" again.

Handing out ANYTHING to other peoples' children without asking the parent first just isn't acceptable. I still can't tell how enraged I should've been, but I suspect this will raise the ire of a few folks around here.

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i think the guy was trying to make sure your daughter wasn't a vampire. standard. nothing to get upset over.

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LFS:

Are you trying to say you hate Jesus?

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so your sat with her, maybe if she was playing somewhere in view and you seen him give her something, it would be out of order, but i dont see the harm.

Certainly wouldn't cause a fuss over something this little.

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"Happy Sunday!"

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Spooky.

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This is weird, but it's too hard to say what kind of weird without seeing the guy do it. Sometimes an older person will do something like this and it doesn't seem suspicious to me. The fact that it's a cross with jesus on it is confounding.

I think you have to be there to make the call on what to do other than keeping an eye on him.

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Standard Jesus freak.

The guys from the 'moron neighbors' post will be over soon to tell you it's your own fault now if you let your daughter out in public now that you know freaks are out there.

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Probably just a member of god's squad trying to save the world by spreading religion. A little creepy, but no reason to fight the guy or anything. I think you played the situation fine.

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LFS,

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My daughter said "What's this?" and I said "It's a present!"

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That's supposed to say "He said" right?

Fundos are weird.

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LFS,

Coincidentally, I just texted "Happy Sunday!" to this chick I want to bang.

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http://img405.imageshack.us/img405/7...byarmorlt0.jpg

Edit: Creepy dude running up to your kid in public = grounds for preemptive ass kicking.

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Standard Jesus freak.

The guys from the 'moron neighbors' post will be over soon to tell you it's your own fault now if you let your daughter out in public now that you know freaks are out there.

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Did you hit your head when you were young or were you born retarded?

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Two things:

It was Noon on a Sunday, so I'm guessing the crowd was very much post-church. Once we were inside a woman with a similarly-aged child started talking to me and asked where my daughter is going to preschool. As it happens, she's going to a preschool at a Jewish Community Center in my neighborhood, and the woman's eyes widened a little when she heard that. Frankly, if the guy had handed her a star of David or a Koran I would've been just as annoyed.

This was not a normal-looking nice old guy. I'm guessing former meth addict who was born again - really craggy looking face, goatee. I'm guessing he was 40ish but looked older at first glance.

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That's supposed to say "He said" right?


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No, I jumped in with that because I didn't want Reverend Weirdo to launch into an explanation of what it was.

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LFS,

"I'm guessing former meth addict who was born again - really craggy looking face, goatee."

"he comes and sits strangely close to us."

"he says hi to my daughter and gives her this:"

"And says "Happy Sunday!" like three times."

I think if I had a 2yo daughter and a guy like that started talking to her I'd be really freaked out.

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this totally depends on how old the guy was, if he was 80, fine no big deal, if he is 40, I go a little crazy on him, I really think though that you should have thrown the gift away and made a point to your daughter that "we dont accept gifts from strangers".

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FWIW the pedo angle didn't even really occur to me, the guy was proselytizing to my daughter.

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she's 2. she has no idea. if the guy was trying to convert anyone it was you.

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I'd be in this guy's face something awful.

I should note that "selling religion" pissed me off more than "greeted my kid". If he gave my 2½-year-old boy a pack of baseball cards, I'd be totally cool with it.

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This was not a normal-looking nice old guy. I'm guessing former meth addict who was born again

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Oh, so he probably has some holes in his brain that he's filled with Jesus in an attempt to be at least barely functional.

Probably harmless, just a broken brain.

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Standard Jesus freak.

The guys from the 'moron neighbors' post will be over soon to tell you it's your own fault now if you let your daughter out in public now that you know freaks are out there.

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ya, either that, or the moran parents who think they are special because they can pop out a few kids will tell you its okay to stab the guy because he is messing with your precious special brat.


ps- LFS sorry to sidetrack your thread and get you involved, but this guy is being a big douche

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right, one of those two

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Standard Jesus freak.

The guys from the 'moron neighbors' post will be over soon to tell you it's your own fault now if you let your daughter out in public now that you know freaks are out there.

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Did you hit your head when you were young or were you born retarded?

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I was hit by a speeder in my culdesac.

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LFS, take him in as a handyman/nanny, just to keep a close eye on him.

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this totally depends on how old the guy was, if he was 80, fine no big deal, if he is 40, I go a little crazy on him, I really think though that you should have thrown the gift away and made a point to your daughter that "we dont accept gifts from strangers".

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Couldn't agree more.

Giving a very young child ANYTHING without asking the parent if it is ok = Not OK.

Giving them a religious symbol is also a special kind of "pushing".

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Did you ask your 2.5 yr old what she thought of the man and trinket?

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Standard Jesus freak.

The guys from the 'moron neighbors' post will be over soon to tell you it's your own fault now if you let your daughter out in public now that you know freaks are out there.

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Did you hit your head when you were young or were you born retarded?

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I was hit by a speeder in my culdesac.

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Standard Jesus freak.

The guys from the 'moron neighbors' post will be over soon to tell you it's your own fault now if you let your daughter out in public now that you know freaks are out there.

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ya, either that, or the moran parents who think they are special because they can pop out a few kids will tell you its okay to stab the guy because he is messing with your precious special brat.


ps- LFS sorry to sidetrack your thread and get you involved, but this guy is being a big douche

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Irrespective of whether this is a retarded attempt at humor or not, I always suspected that you were one of the dumbest posters. Thank you for confirming that you belong at the top of the list.

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Standard Jesus freak.

The guys from the 'moron neighbors' post will be over soon to tell you it's your own fault now if you let your daughter out in public now that you know freaks are out there.

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ya, either that, or the moran parents who think they are special because they can pop out a few kids will tell you its okay to stab the guy because he is messing with your precious special brat.


ps- LFS sorry to sidetrack your thread and get you involved, but this guy is being a big douche

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Irrespective of whether this is a retarded attempt at humor or not, I always suspected that you were one of the dumbest posters. Thank you for confirming that you belong at the top of the list.

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hahaha....I love how you douche bags on 2p2 always try to sound so witty and condescending, when you cant come up with something funny to write.


why dont you just type out:


You are stupid.

and save yourself some time, do you really think people are going to view you in any higher regard by camouflaging your "burn" in a "witty" way?



PS---- if this is the first real confirmation that Im a douche bag, and stupid...it doesn't speak to highly of your intelligence.

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niss, where the heck are you in the TS Gabrielle thread? I thought you would be all over that once the thing actually approached/made landfall.

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guids man, i like your style

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I would hand the dumb cross back to him and firmly and angrily say "STAY THE [censored] AWAY FROM MY DAUGHTER" while keeping her behind me and very close. It sends the clear message to this freak that if he sees your daughter again when you aren't there (with the babysitter, mom) it's gonna be a really bad thing to mess with your family; she's protected.

Once you have to stand up and give someone a verbal asskicking like this, it's much easier and more natural the next time around when it may not be a false-alarm.

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This was not a normal-looking nice old guy. I'm guessing former meth addict who was born again - really craggy looking face, goatee. I'm guessing he was 40ish but looked older at first glance.

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That's what I pictured when I read the OP.

I think the only reasonable response is to take the gift and just try and ignore the guy.

Yelling at the guy is pointless. It sets a bad example for your daughter, who should know not to go anywhere with strangers but certainly shouldn't think yelling at them is acceptable. And it's not like yelling at this guy is going to magically change him into someone who can still think. He'll just be scared and confused and some very small % of the time he might get violent.

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If the event does not begin with the guy asking " is it Ok If I give you daughter this "(then shows you what it is), then he is totally out of line. He could be well-intentioned or he could be a wacko, but right off the bat you should have told the guy. "We can't accept this. I have told my daughter not to accept gifts from or to talk to strangers. I'm sure you understand."

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hey LFS,
I've been raising a daughter myself, and extremely protective of her! My advice is to let ur daughter know that she should not accept gifts from strangers (i know she's only 2 1/2 but the concept will begin to set in) As far as that happening again (not all these people will be freaks), i would say to the person, let me see that- and say "i'm sorry but we don't let people we don't know give gifts to our daughter" ya know...or you understand.

And the on an aside- i think freak boy was trying to save your soul..thru ur little princess. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

-ala

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And the on an aside- i think freak boy was trying to save your soul..thru ur little princess. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

-ala

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I know you meant this as a joke, but it's probably what he was doing, or else he thought you were too far gone to save.

I hate when people hand me religious crap. I hate to not take it, but when I take whatever they're trying to give me, they always want to talk to me then. LEAVE ME THE HELL ALONE!

It's times like this when I wish I carried around a big boombox and I could blast Heresy by NIN.

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obvious subtle brag about daughter's linguistical development

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I think the only reasonable response is to take the gift and just try and ignore the guy.


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Do this and you are in essense telling the 2 1/2 yo that it is ok to accept gifts from a stranger and she will get in the van for free candy.....

The guy should have asked OP's permission 1st. If he doesn't, then OP has every right to get in his face.

This isn't the 1800's anymore, you need to be aware of everything when you have kids.

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hey LFS,
I've been raising a daughter myself, and extremely protective of her! My advice is to let ur daughter know that she should not accept gifts from strangers (i know she's only 2 1/2 but the concept will begin to set in) As far as that happening again (not all these people will be freaks), i would say to the person, let me see that- and say "i'm sorry but we don't let people we don't know give gifts to our daughter" ya know...or you understand.

And the on an aside- i think freak boy was trying to save your soul..thru ur little princess. [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

-ala

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This is perfect advice. Anyone suggesting to get confrontational with a Jesus freak in front of his daughter likely doesn't have kids. It's the easy thing to do, but certainly not the right play when your kid is standing right there.