Girlfriends going to parties without you - advice?
 

So, I'm in the "not cool with it" crowd. My girlfriend is currently at a party, to which she made no gesture of invitation towards me, and she didn't ask if it was ok or not for her to go to it. She just gave me the old "i think i'm going to a party tonight" line. I asked her how much she's drank when she called me and she said only one drink, which girl math = about 3 drinks.

Anyways, my question is, what's your play in situations like these, and is anyone really ok with this phenomena? We're in a close and committed relationship btw

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no, if my gf goes to parties without me, and without inviting me, then we have issues. That is NOT alright with me

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um... talk to her about it. or dump her asss

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That sounds pretty shady she wouldn't invite you. You may want to nicely ask about it. It is obviously bothering you and it should.

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We're in a close and committed relationship btw

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then start acting like it and let her go.

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she should take you into consideration. She should either invite you or explainwhy you aren't invited and if that's ok.

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You are an insecure [censored].

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she should take you into consideration. She should either invite you or explainwhy you aren't invited and if that's ok.

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The right answer.

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We're in a close and committed relationship btw

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then she should start acting like it and invite him to go.

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How long have you two been close and committed Marsvolta619?

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i think her behavior is perfectly acceptable. you should learn to trust her.

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Maybe you suck at parties? All of my male friends who have this problem don't know how to party aka are really boring.

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Tell her to have fun.

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You are an insecure [censored].

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You are an insecure [censored].

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Yeah, some guy's probably balls deep in her right now. If you don't live together this is totally normal IMHO. Seperation is OK you know. Next time you go to a "not cool crowd" party, don't even mention it to her. Play right back at her.

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advice?

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wear a rubber.

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If it's a girls night out I couldn't care less about it.

If it's a general party, you have to know the guys there are going to try and score with her. She knows this too - it's probably part of the fun for her. She'll like the attention whether or not she actually does it, and it's not really a huge leap from A to B. It really comes down to how much you trust her, or more accurately, how much you trust her + alcohol + horny guys.

If it really bothers you so much, just talk with her about it. That should be easy if you're 'close and committed'.

You're also free to go to your own parties without inviting her. Be your own man, do what you want, and don't take this so seriously. If you don't feel she's being totally honest about what happens at these parties, give her a four letter word: next.

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The simple fact she didn't want you there and didn't talk to you about it is dysfunctional. Good couples talk and think of their actions on one another. Maybe she's just not ready for a serious relationship. Or if she is, maybe she isn't ready for a committed relationship, in which case you still need to talk and figure out what boundaries you are both comfortable with.

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Mars,

You should bang other people too.

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Maybe you suck at partying?

Maybe she's ashamed of you? (For example, it might be a party where most people dress fashionably and your only suit is from a thrift shop, not Versace)

Maybe you don't behave that well when you're drunk?

Maybe she just wants to go alone? It's not like a couple is supposed to be together all the time, they are supposed to have their own hobbies and friends too. When you go to the local bar to play pool and drink beer do you invite her every time?

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Her going to parties without you is ok, but she should at least let you know.

("I just want to hang out with the girls, I just want to catch up with some other friends, etc".)

Don't be insecure, but don't also be an idiot.

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Your relationship is not that close or commited. You are pretty much a tool. Why arent you asking her about this? We dont know what the [censored] shes thinking. Express your concerns to her, the person who can give you a good answer on what the [censored] is going on. Did you guys who have women problems skip pre-school and kindegarten?

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Did you guys who have women problems skip pre-school and kindegarten?

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I don't know how schools work in America, but over here, we don't learn how to be smooth, suave ladies men in pre-school or kindergarten. Some guys have things like crappy dads who never taught them anything.

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my two closest friends were a couple. guy and girl couple. they were the most secure people ive really ever met. they could do their own stuff, go out to parties, find themselves in situations other people would OBVIOUSLY find inappropriate. but they were okay with it. She was more of the wild one. on nights when she would go out "with the girls" i would be the DD because i wasnt 21. So between 2-4 AM i get to call and some of the stories were amazing. "out with the girls" my ass.

What Dave G. said about having guys hit on her is 100% true.

heres a conversation I had with her one night:

Me: Did you guys have fun?
Her: oh yeah, we always have fun.
Me: cool.
Her: I got up and danced on a bar with a bunch of fat chicks. (the chick im talking to is easily an 8)
Me: Awesome.
Her: And i made out with Jessica (her best friend)
Me: seriously?
Her: yeah, Jess wanted to and I didnt really mind.
Me: .....
Her: i dont know why, i think i just like to get the boys wound up.
Me: your kind of a bitch, huh.
Her: yeah. is my boyfriend awake? (we were all roommates)
Me: no, he went to bed a couple hours ago.
Her: good.

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mars,

Time for a new gf who really is close and committed.

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Did you guys who have women problems skip pre-school and kindegarten?

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I don't know how schools work in America, but over here, we don't learn how to be smooth, suave ladies men in pre-school or kindergarten. Some guys have things like crappy dads who never taught them anything.

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not a crappy dad but my dad was a long haul trucker for all of my teenage years 11-19 before i started to see him on a regular basis. well just say im on a bit of a learning curve.

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Tell her to have fun.

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i've been with my bf forever and basically never leave the house , and don't drink or party - but if some day i decided i want to go to a party without him i'd expect him to be ok with that. i mean, if i end up hooking up with someone i'd tell him about it while we're doin' it later, anyway. i'm completely trust worthy.

if it bothers you why don't you talk to her about it ? i mean, don't get too worried about it until you have a reason to. maybe she just needs to feel like her own person once and awhile. she might not have thought it was a big deal.

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Maybe you suck at partying?

Maybe she's ashamed of you? (For example, it might be a party where most people dress fashionably and your only suit is from a thrift shop, not Versace)

Maybe you don't behave that well when you're drunk?

Maybe she just wants to go alone? It's not like a couple is supposed to be together all the time, they are supposed to have their own hobbies and friends too. When you go to the local bar to play pool and drink beer do you invite her every time?

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Perfect

If your relationship is strong, don't worry about it.

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yeah this isn't a cool thing to do. i'd start lining up my sidepussy and break up with her pretty soon

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Did you guys who have women problems skip pre-school and kindegarten?

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I don't know how schools work in America, but over here, we don't learn how to be smooth, suave ladies men in pre-school or kindergarten. Some guys have things like crappy dads who never taught them anything.

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not a crappy dad but my dad was a long haul trucker for all of my teenage years 11-19 before i started to see him on a regular basis. well just say im on a bit of a learning curve.

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You dont have to be a suave ladies man to use your big boy words and communicate with her. You guys should have leanred this in pre-school/kindergarten. Just try to use your inside voice though. Morans.

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Did you guys who have women problems skip pre-school and kindegarten?

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I don't know how schools work in America, but over here, we don't learn how to be smooth, suave ladies men in pre-school or kindergarten. Some guys have things like crappy dads who never taught them anything.

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not a crappy dad but my dad was a long haul trucker for all of my teenage years 11-19 before i started to see him on a regular basis. well just say im on a bit of a learning curve.

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You dont have to be a suave ladies man to use your big boy words and communicate with her. You guys should have leanred this in pre-school/kindergarten. Just try to use your inside voice though. Morans.

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I DONT KNOW WHAT WERE YELLING ABOUT!!!


i do use my big boy words... the problem is i dont think they understand when i use them, so im forced to lower myelf down to.... hey, look at the shiny objects...

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Ya, thats it, your superior intellect. Keep telling yourself that, you should turn out fine. Im not yelling, Im just telling you like it is down here on earth with the rest of us mere humans.

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When I saw the title of the post I was going to say how insecure you are. But she is really really out of order for not providing an explanation to you.

As to the general issue, some of the time I am going to want to go out without my girl, perhaps to have a guys night out or whatever, and I would apply the same standards to her, so if she wanted to go a party on her own and explained the situation I wouldnt have a problem with it.

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never seen Anchorman i take it?

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I think the fact that she's going to parties without inviting you AND lying about how much she's drinking at them shows a clear issue.

My wife goes to parties quite often, but I'm always invited and I always know where they are and who she's with (sometimes I just don't want to go). She has no prob calling me up and letting me know she's wrecked, no problem with calling for a ride, etc.

I'd be more worried that she seems to want to keep things from you. If she can't be honest about getting [censored] up and having fun, then I think there are issues you have to deal with. I'd def be concerned.

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This bitch deserves to die for what she's done.

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I am really shocked by the replies to this. This is not a problem at all.