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hi, here is my story. I am an 18 year old college baseball player in my first year of college and i met this really hot girl who plays on the basketball team. She is drop dead gorgeous and shes 22 years old. We became pretty close friends but we've only known each other for a little over a month. We hang out a lot and we talk and do a lot of stuff together but we are nothing more than friends. She told me she never would go out with a person she is really good friends with but i really want to go out with her. I like her a lot and i want to know what you guys think is my best option. Btw, when i asked her if shes going to my next game she said shed only go if my mom goes, and shes never met my mom before, seriously, what does that mean? She also keeps telling me she wants to sleep over but then she hints to me that she wants to be nothing more than friends with me. Thanks for your advice.

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Ugh. Grow some balls and make a move. Stop being friends with a chick you want to bang.

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you are 18, shes 22. You can maybe end up poking her twice, but it most likely wont ever go farther than that. Women at that age are really weird about the age thing. And you being that much younger than her, is pretty much the kiss of death in her eyes. Id cut your losses and cash in on being a college athlete and start running up a string of slutty soriety girls.

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she probably values your friendship too much to risk losing it. you've become her baby brother and it is hard to break out of that mold. however while many people think it's impossible to overcome the friendship gap, it's simply not true. it's just that as long as you're drooling over her it will never happen.

the only real way to woo her is to lose all attraction to her and just be natural. once you've lost interest, she'll start to wonder what happened and will probably do things to get you to notice her again.

but, that's more hassle than it's worth. you can't force yourself to be natural. I know I usually advocate a "forget her, man" stance but it's almost always the best option. I think you should go out and meet some other girls. in time, you'll lose interest with this girl and start to loosen up around her. if it doesn't happen then it'll never happen, though.

just relax, be her friend, meet other girls, and things will necessarily get better from there.

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this works sometimes. but in general it's a good way to lose both a friend and any chance in hell.

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you are 18, shes 22. You can maybe end up poking her twice, but it most likely wont ever go farther than that. Women at that age are really weird about the age thing. And you being that much younger than her, is pretty much the kiss of death in her eyes. Id cut your losses and cash in on being a college athlete and start running up a string of slutty soriety girls.

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thats what i was thinkin but sometimes she gets frisky and starts to wrestle with me and [censored] which is weird. i didnt wanna make a move first cuz if we dont get to bang i still wanna be friends cuz shes one of my best friends now. Honestly ive never liked a girl as much as i like her right now for some reason.

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this works sometimes. but in general it's a good way to lose both a friend and any chance in hell.

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I agree with your post 100%. I just didn't want to type that much.

Being friends with a girl you are into is bad for your health.

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<putting hands over face and slowly shaking head>

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im sorry if this seems stupid but ive only banged 1 girl in my life and she made the 1st move and we werent close friends before i banged her so this is a totally new thing for me.

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She also keeps telling me she wants to sleep over but then she hints to me that she wants to be nothing more than friends with me.

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You really have to ask?

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you are 18, shes 22. You can maybe end up poking her twice, but it most likely wont ever go farther than that. Women at that age are really weird about the age thing. And you being that much younger than her, is pretty much the kiss of death in her eyes. Id cut your losses and cash in on being a college athlete and start running up a string of slutty soriety girls.

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thats what i was thinkin but sometimes she gets frisky and starts to wrestle with me and [censored] which is weird. i didnt wanna make a move first cuz if we dont get to bang i still wanna be friends cuz shes one of my best friends now. Honestly ive never liked a girl as much as i like her right now for some reason.

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I didnt say she didnt like you. Obviously there is some sort of attraction or you wouldnt be friends. I just mean you will never be her boyfriend. I can tell you an EXACT convosation shes had with her friends

Her: "yeah, hes really cute, but oh my god, hes a baby. Hes 18, id be like a rapist. They are just so clueless at that age". I know this because Ive heard it a hundred times. I lived in a house with a bunch of female roomates.

Also chicks love attention, and chicks that age think its really flattering when some young kid (how she views you) fawns all over her. All of this adds up to you being screwed. And since it sounds like poking her once would just make things even worse for you, id either learn how to be in love with ure best friend and never have anything happen (total hell), or realize the world is your doorstep and move on.

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I sort of miss the innocent days when I thought I had a chance with my older female friends.

life was less cold then.

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I sort of miss the innocent days when I thought I had a chance with my older female friends.

life was less cold then.

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yeah, hope does a lot to make the world bright and sunny. But too much angst. I like it now that I have experience and see the world for what it is. cold and dark. its a lot more relaxing [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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I sort of miss the innocent days when I thought I had a chance with my older female friends.

life was less cold then.

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yeah, hope does a lot to make the world bright and sunny. But too much angst. I like it now that I have experience and see the world for what it is. cold and dark. its a lot more relaxing [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

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that sounds nice. I've only advanced to first-level hopelessness and despair, so it'll be a few years before I can really relax.

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hi, here is my story. I am an 18 year old college baseball player in my first year of college and i met this really hot girl who plays on the basketball team. She is drop dead gorgeous and shes 22 years old. We became pretty close friends but we've only known each other for a little over a month. We hang out a lot and we talk and do a lot of stuff together but we are nothing more than friends. She told me she never would go out with a person she is really good friends with but i really want to go out with her. I like her a lot and i want to know what you guys think is my best option. Btw, when i asked her if shes going to my next game she said shed only go if my mom goes, and shes never met my mom before, seriously, what does that mean? She also keeps telling me she wants to sleep over but then she hints to me that she wants to be nothing more than friends with me. Thanks for your advice.

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I just don't believe that she really means it. It's just a way of approaching you that exposes her to less risk of being rejected.

I think you should just explain your thoughts to her without necessarily "making a move" and seeing what happens. She'll probably respond positively judging from what you've described and if she doesn't you may be able to salvage a friendship -- that is, if you want to salvage a friendship with someone who turned you down but you still like them.

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im sorry if this seems stupid but ive only banged 1 girl in my life and she made the 1st move and we werent close friends before i banged her so this is a totally new thing for me.

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it's not your fault...you have to make a decision...do you want her as JUST your friend or do you want to try and get something going with her?

If it's the latter, you MUST make a move. Next time she's wrestling with you or teasing you, look her in the eyes and kiss her. If she freaks out or says "we're just friends," then you need to let her know that her actions are confusing you. adult friends do not "wrestle" - they either are having sex or they are not.

You really have nothing to lose...if she says no to your advance, things might a litle uncomfortable for a couple of days, but if you two are truly friends, it will pass.

By the way, I don't believe that men and women CAN be friends without sex getting in the way, but there are exceptions. Your friendship with this girl is not one of them. Sex is already in the way. And she's not mkaing it any easier for you by acting all flirty and getting the result she wants - you desiring her without having to have sex with you.

Nip this in the bud TODAY. Be a man and stand up to her...tell her how you feel and that you want your relationship to progress. If you lose her friendship over this, it really wasn't much of a friendship to begin with, right?

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I'd just like to reemphasize dom's point about making a decision. you have to decide what you want with her, because otherwise you'll appear spineless. spineless ain't sexy.

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hi, here is my story. I am an 18 year old college baseball player in my first year of college and i met this really hot girl who plays on the basketball team. She is drop dead gorgeous and shes 22 years old. We became pretty close friends but we've only known each other for a little over a month. We hang out a lot and we talk and do a lot of stuff together but we are nothing more than friends. She told me she never would go out with a person she is really good friends with but i really want to go out with her. I like her a lot and i want to know what you guys think is my best option. Btw, when i asked her if shes going to my next game she said shed only go if my mom goes, and shes never met my mom before, seriously, what does that mean? She also keeps telling me she wants to sleep over but then she hints to me that she wants to be nothing more than friends with me. Thanks for your advice.

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I just don't believe that she really means it. It's just a way of approaching you that exposes her to less risk of being rejected.

I think you should just explain your thoughts to her without necessarily "making a move" and seeing what happens. She'll probably respond positively judging from what you've described and if she doesn't you may be able to salvage a friendship -- that is, if you want to salvage a friendship with someone who turned you down but you still like them.

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btw she lives with 4 roomates and 1 ofem shares a room with her does that make the situation different?

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Almost sounds like she's into you, but a bit hung up on the age thing or something else.

If she's into you, you need to appeal to her pussy until she can't handle it anymore. Be flirtatious, encourage these "harmless" wrestling sessions, be touchy-feely, but initially act as though she's just your good friend. If she's into you even slightly this stuff will make her crazy pretty quick, it will (or should) become obvious to you, and you can bust a move.

Please, please, please, whatever you do, don't try to sit down and have an intellectual/mature conversation about your feelings for her. I can't stress this enough. If you want to make a play (and it sounds like it's worth a shot) you need to build the attraction and move in for the kill. Be assertive.

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Almost sounds like she's into you, but a bit hung up on the age thing or something else.

If she's into you, you need to appeal to her pussy until she can't handle it anymore. Be flirtatious, encourage these "harmless" wrestling sessions, be touchy-feely, but initially act as though she's just your good friend. If she's into you even slightly this stuff will make her crazy pretty quick, it will (or should) become obvious to you, and you can bust a move.

Please, please, please, whatever you do, don't try to sit down and have an intellectual/mature conversation about your feelings for her. I can't stress this enough. If you want to make a play (and it sounds like it's worth a shot) you need to build the attraction and move in for the kill. Be assertive.

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this was what i was going to try to do before u even said it. does anyone else like this idea?

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another thing is i know of a few other really good friends she has that are guys also and she wrestles with them and does this with them too, but mostly shes been hanging out with me for the last month. The other guys she did this with never banged her but they are still real good friends like brother and sister. they are all closer to her age.

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pokerkid,

it sounds like you're only gonna take the advice you want to hear. whatever man, do what you want.

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btw she lives with 4 roomates and 1 ofem shares a room with her does that make the situation different?

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Totally. Group sex is now an option. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

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btw she lives with 4 roomates and 1 ofem shares a room with her does that make the situation different?

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Totally. Group sex is now an option. [img]/images/graemlins/wink.gif[/img]

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haha and no, im not only going to take advice i wanna hear, im just exploring all options. she did go out with 1 of the kids i mentioned earlier but only for like a month.

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It's definitely going to make things harder if something ever happens, but it shouldn't get in the way of having a discussion with her.

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im just exploring all options.

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Now you're on the right track. I highly recommend you explore all her options.

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This is the classic bear/beehive situation. Guess who's gonna get stung.? At twice your age I can tell you one thing. RUN!!! Those creatures are [censored] nasty man. See how they work to manipulate you already. You haven't even kissed her and already shes [censored] with your head. Im agine if you (ugh) fall in love with her. Next thing you know you'll have a job and a mortgage and kids. You won't have had a beer in months, have absolutely no free time no hanging out with the guys...

Forget about women, drink, play poker, do something else.

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pokerkid,

I lay 2-1 that you are a teenage troll.

With that said, after reading your initial post I too shook my head in silence.

J

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It's definitely going to make things harder if something ever happens, but it shouldn't get in the way of having a discussion with her.

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Awesome, he can jack off under the table while having a fulfilling discussion with her, score!

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This is the classic bear/beehive situation. Guess who's gonna get stung.? At twice your age I can tell you one thing. RUN!!! Those creatures are [censored] nasty man. See how they work to manipulate you already. You haven't even kissed her and already shes [censored] with your head. Im agine if you (ugh) fall in love with her. Next thing you know you'll have a job and a mortgage and kids. You won't have had a beer in months, have absolutely no free time no hanging out with the guys...

Forget about women, drink, play poker, do something else.

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whoops,guess i was mistaken, im exploring all options except this one lolol

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She's a Succubus in disguise dude. Offer her 3.fiddy and she might leave.

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pokerkid,

I lay 2-1 that you are a teenage troll.

With that said, after reading your initial post I too shook my head in silence.

J

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not true, i have another name i post under but im a little embarrassed to type this from that name, if u were me u would be too.

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Find a new girl to bang

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cash in on being a college athlete and start running up a string of slutty soriety girls

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LMAO.... but seriously this is a good idea.

SGS

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Find a new girl to bang

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this and the sorority girls is nice and all and it might happen but after i get through with this girl because i really like this girl and i wouldnt mind having a relationship with her.

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i wouldnt mind having a relationship with her.

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As long as you understand that she's probably not so interested in a lovesick toy boy, as she is a man that can make her want him and fulfil her needs. If you get this, you have a chance.

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i dunno if thats what she really wants because she doesnt act her age too often as u can see by the wrestling lol, and also she hasnt had a boyfriend in a while except for the kid who shes like brother sister with and that didnt go too well, only a few weeks.

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well, someone's gotta say it...

SIIHP

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Can you say pussy on here or will it get censored?

In either case, stop being such a pussy. Pussy.

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If she's on the basketball team she's a lesbian. Forget about it.